(Closed) Thank you… For Not Attending! (lol)

posted 5 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
563 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

If they sent a gift, but couldn’t make it I would definitely send a thank you and say something along the lines of ‘thank you so much for the wonderful *insert name here*, we love it. We wish you could have been there to share our special day!’ and for the no gifts, I’d probably send a thank you that said ‘thank you for sharing our special day with us’.. or no card. haha one of the two.

Post # 4
2946 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

For the ones who sent gifts, but did not attend, just thank them for the gift.  Don’t bring up the party at all.

Thank you for your gift of giant glass bowl.  We really love hosting and giant glass bowl will really help with that! 

Sending thank you for attending, don’t mention the lack of gift. 

Thank you for attending our engagment party.  It was wonderful to see you.  We had so much fun catching up.  I hope that XYZ thing we talked about is going well.

Sending “Thank you for attending” is an ettiqute question mark.  You have to be really careful not to make any accusations of not giving a gift. And the worst part is if you misplaced their card and they did give a gift and now you look ungreatful for the gift.  I don’t think we will be sending “Thank you for attending” except for people who we know put in a huge effor to attend (i.e. I am inviting people from foreing countries, and if they make it, that is more than enough of a gift.)

Post # 6
1181 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Stephville:  Guest  that attend + give a gift “thank you for celebrating and for the generous gift of _______. “


Guests who showed up with no gift “Thank you for celebrating our special day with us! It meant a lot to us that you were there! We look forward to celebrating with you again on our wedding day. Thank you again for coming. “

“we enjoyed our e-party so much, we hope you did too”


Guests who just sent presents -“Thank you so much for the _______. We are excited to   using it/puttig it toward _________. It will be great for _______. We are so excited to start planning the wedding. We hope to see you there in ______ (if you have a date). Once again thank you for your generoud gift.”

Post # 7
1415 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Some people might not think to bring gifts to an engagement party, especially your grandfather. Engagement parties are a relatively new thing after all. I’m quite sure that in your grandfather’s day, engagement parties didn’t exist. I would only send thank you cards for the gifts you received. I bet most people who just attended your engagement party (and didn’t bring gifts) thought of it as any other party and you wouldn’t get a thank you card for attending a party right? That’s what I would think anyway but then again I don’t really understand the concept of engagement parties and I’m only 30! lol ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Stephville:  I would say something like “Thank you so much for your generous gift. We’ll be sure to put it to good use in starting this new chapter in our lives together. We can’t wait to celebrate with you on (wedding date)! Thanks again for the lovely gift.”

Post # 11
1301 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Since they were all cash, I would say, “Thank you so much for your generous gift.  We are sorry you couldn’t attend, but we look forward to celebrating with you soon!”

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