Post # 1
We got married April 9th and it was wonderful! I can’t wait to recap and help answer questions as someone from “the other side” now. We honeymooned in Kauai and I can’t say enough great things about it!
We were blessed with great friends who took it upon themselves to clean the humongous pig pen we left behind after days of relatives staying over and a wedding explosion of gifts and center pieces shoved in the corner of the living room. Unfortunately what they didn’t know is I paid very close attention to keep the card with the gift and in the clean up the cards got dumped into a pile and the gifts were in a pile. Freaking sigh. So I luckily remember most of them and had thankfully written down the cash gifts but I’m left with about 5 “mystery” gifts and about 10 attendants who I don’ know what they brought. So clearly some didn’t bring a gift, which I’m fine with but what do I do know? Asking someone point blank if a gift is theirs and if their answer is I didn’t bring anything just sounds horrible and will embarass both of us. I’m tempted to write very sincere thank yous to the remainding…but be very vague about the gift since I have no clue what was from who? Or am I better off biting the bullet and asking.
Post # 3
I would ask friends of the 10 unknown people if they know what their friends bought. Explain your situation. I typically knew what my friends bring to weddings we attended together.
Post # 4
You can try asking around behind the scenes. Ask your Mom maybe to ask the 10 people if they gave you a gift because the gifts were mixed up. That way it won’t seem AS gift grabby since you aren’t doing it directly. OR you can just not send any card and wait for the 5 people to ask if you got it.
Post # 5
this may be going against etiquette, but i who cares. My SIL had the same problem, whoever collected her gifts did a TERRIBLE job with keep thing things together. luckily she only had a few that she couldn’t place. She posted it on facebook. something like “we got some lovely pots and pans but the card has gone missing and we are unsure who it belongs to and we want to be able to thank you properly” i know she got a few answers that way.
depends on who the people are that you are missing from – i was missing a gift from my co-worker, but i knew he brought one because he asked me multiple times where i was registered. one day i got the guts to ask him and i was like i am so embarrassed to even ask this but did you and B (his wife) give us a gift? he was like what?! yes of course we gave you cash for this amount. i was like oh thank god, i need to go through my card box and make sure its written down. he just laughed at me.
we also were missing a gift from my husbands uncle and aunt, i knew they would bring a gift, so we asked his parents to ask them what it was…
good luck! if you feel close enough to them to ask do it, if your family can ask for you great! but i would try and do whatever i can to figure out who sent it.
Post # 6
I agree with totheislnds. If those people are on facebook, I would post a message. My SIL did. Gift mix ups happen. and its less awkward for the correct giver to identify themselves then to embarrass the people who didn’t give you a gift.