Post # 1
**Warning: May contain some irrational pregnancy hormone anger***
I mentioned in some of my other posts that I have an extreme fear of flying and I take anti-anxiety meds for it.
Since I got my BFP on Saturday and I had to fly out to a work trip on Monday, I called my Dr. office Monday morning to ask my Dr. if I could continue to take my meds when I fly.
The receptionist answers and I ask to speak to my Dr. She said my Dr is not available. I said “well, my question can be answered by any of the Drs in the practice, so can I speak to anyone?” She said “Tell me your question and I will go ask them”.
So I explain the situation, and the receptionist says “Oh, I wouldn’t take them! Just sit back, take a deep breath, and pretend that you’re sitting in your living room! You’ll be fine. Flying isn’t a big deal!!”
Um…listen B($*C, I’ve had a crippling fear of flying for 10+ years! You think I haven’t tried TAKING A DEAP BREATH??? I’ve been to therapists, hypnotized, taken instructional lessons from pilots to learn about the mechanics, and Xanax has been the only thing to keep me from almost stroking out if the plane hits turbulence!
But thank you for your unsolicited advice….now please let me speak to an f-ing Dr. Thanks!
Post # 3
@ExcitedScaredBee: Haha! I hear you! I HATE it when receptionists asks why i want to speak to the doctor. Its none of their business! Gah!
Post # 4
Ugh, I know. When there are some generic questions, the receptionists may be able to answer… but they aren’t doctors, and when it comes down to it, they can’t help you! UGHHHH. I hope you finally got through to one!
Post # 5
@Sea_bass: Yes, I thought that was a bit intrusive! But I was in a hurry to get an answer (I was sitting in the airport parking lot at the time), so I was willing to tell her!
@abbie017: Exactly!! I think I was more annoyed by the way she said it than the fact that she said anything. If she would have said “we have received that question in the past and the answer is “no,” I would have said “ok, thank you.” But the fact that she tried to give me advice on how to handle my anxiety just set me off!
Post # 6
As someone with a fear of flying i can totally relate. People just dont understand do they? Its like i know to you it seems irrational and if i could just hop on the plane and hop off i would.
Its when you get the line ‘flying is the safest form of transport bla bla bla’. ya know what, your right i will just hop right on this plane right now and get on with it- doesnt work like that!
Post # 7
@ChocolateLime: Exactly! I fully understand that flying is safe. My issue is 100% a control issue. When you fly, you give up 100% control to someone you have never met. You encounter turbulence that you can’t see coming and can’t do anything about. If you start to crash, you have several minutes of falling through the air to your impending death and there’s nothing you can do to stop it.
THAT is where my fear stems from. If I were flying the plane, I probably would feel fine, because I would feel like I’m in control. But I have no interest in pursuing a pilots license, so Xanax was my savior!
Post # 8
I had a similar problem when I called to verify with my doctor that it’s safe for me to fly during my third trimester. I left a message because it’s nearly impossible to get ahold of a real person, asking if they could please run it by my doctor and let me know. Someone eventually calls me back, having not spoken to my doctor at all, makes me go over the details again, and says it’s probably fine and I can just ask the doctor at my next appointment in two weeks. Uh, I don’t WANT to wait two weeks, that’s why I CALLED YOU NOW. Sorry, I still get pretty annoyed just thinking about it. We ended up having to book our flight and cross our fingers. :/
Post # 9
That is super annoying! Fortunately I haven’t had to deal with this. But I feel for you!
Post # 10
So uncalled for! I hope you mentioned it to the MD when you finally spoke to them, that receptionist absolutely crossed a line by dispensing medical advise/opinion. She (or he) may think they know because they work around doctor’s and nurses all day, but you don’t get a medical degree through osmosis!
In the future, if your doctor isn’t around, you can always ask for the nurse, if they don’t know the answer, they can get to the doctor for an answer and get back to you quicker than having the MD call you back.
Post # 11
@ExcitedScaredBee: Oh good for you girl, you didn’t ask her opinion, you were very specific to ask for a doctor…lol…well done!…I would have said the same thing and im not even pregnant haha
Post # 12
@ExcitedScaredBee: What an idiot. As someone who has suffered from a fear of flying (and broken out into panic attacks on flights in the past), that would really annoy me. Hope you have a smooth flight!
Post # 13
@ExcitedScaredBee: I understand. I also have a crippling fear of flying…it does seem that people feel qualified to give stupid advice sometimes.
I also love when people say things like ‘you are 99% more likely to get in a car accident on your way to the airport than getting in a plane crash.’ Doesn’t help.
Post # 14
@ExcitedScaredBee: Oh you poor thing. I have serious anxiety about flying so I completely understand. I’ve been getting better over the last two years or so, but it’s been a long process and it certainly doesn’t happen overnight. I wish I could sleep on planes…it would be so much easier!
On a related note, my SIL is due in March and got told by someone at work yesterday that she shouldn’t be standing so close to the microwave. For real? Whomp whomp.
If you’d like to hear anything about how I’ve started to get better about flying I’d be happy to share, but it’s nothing groundbreaking so I don’t know if it’s anything you haven’t already heard.
Post # 15
@MrsCarnival: I would love to hear!
Post # 16
@ExcitedScaredBee: Well, a lot of it has really just been mental exercises. I spend a week or two beforehand telling myself how safe flying is and that flight attendants fly multiple times per week for YEARS and nothing bad ever happens to them. I do this on the flight as well, especially if it gets bumpy. I repeat to myself that turbulence is normal, even if it’s scary (and it’s okay that I’m scared), and that the pilot wouldn’t put themselves or the passengers/crew in any danger. I know it seems simple and it’s all stuff you’ve heard before, but repeating it over and over and over again in your head while you’re scared has more of a calming effect than you’d think. I still get nervous, but it helps keep me from panicking.
I also bring a lot of things that occupy my time. I always bring a laptop or portable DVD player with enough battery life and enough TV shows/movies to get me through the flight. Having something else to focus on helps take my mind off of the fear. Additionally, I crochet so I always bring that as well because I’ve found that keeping my hands busy is helpful to me too.
Like I said, nothing groundbreaking, but you’d be surprised how much the little things can add up.