Post # 1
My bridesmaids are throwing us an engagement party, and I’m not sure if I need to get them thank you gifts for this as well as the shower plus those for just being a bridesmaid?
thanks in advance for your help!
Post # 3
I got the friends who threw us our engagement party Alora home fragrance diffusers. However, neither of them were bridesmaids or otherwise in the wedding party. But, engagement parties can be a LOT of work if you put effort into them and I think a gift is a nice touch.
Post # 4
I got all of the bridesmaids that attended and my mom little Willow Tree angels from Cherry Lane
They offer free shipping and also discounts (just google cherry lane coupons to find codes) so I ended up spending about $6 per gal and they are adorable! 🙂
Post # 5
Though gifts are not necessary, I find that things like a simple thank you card can mean a lot. I wouldn’t feel obligated but do/give what you feel fit. Perhaps treat them to a dinner one night, or even a mani/pedi day. They can serve as bonding moments as well.
I threw several showers before and I never really expected anything in return because I was so happy and honored to be doing this for people I care for.
Post # 6
I’d give them a very nice bottle of wine giftwrapped and two very nice wine glasses. That’s something I do since my guy and I live close to some great local wineries (yes in the south!) and it gives them a happy occasion right back and they can open it and share the wine with their bf or husband or bff. The glasses they sell at the winery has their logo on it and it is pretty cool.
Or a gift certificate to her favorite restaurant.
I think sometimes giving the ones we love back a special moment of their own is the best gift.
Post # 7
My aunt and best friends recently threw a dinner party in my honor and I gave them each a bottle of wine and a card I had made. The cards were very simple and the wine inexpensive, but it’s the thought that counts. I was actually "scolded" for bringing presents for everyone else when it was my party. They loved it. There’s no need to break the bank, just a sweet note goes a long way.
Post # 8
Family members threw my shower because my only bridesmaid lives out of state. I gave them each a gift certificate for a manicure. I agree with previous posts, that it’s more the thought than the gift that matters. My hostesses were really surprised that I got them anything at all and seemed rather thrown off by it (although appreciative).
Since your bridesmaids are throwing your shower, and you plan on giving them gifts later, I would simply write them each a nice thank you note. If you _really_ want to give them something, then attach the card to a small bag of candy, a scone, cinnimon roll, or other little treat to thank them for being "so sweet."
Post # 9
I gave a small engagement party for my cousin and her Fiance. The day of her big engagement party it snowed about 8 inches and about 20 people could not get here so I threw a make up engagement party for her in the spring. My cousin and her finace gave me a bottle of champagne and a super sweet thank you note and I was so touched. I did not expect them to get me anything but it was a very nice gesture.
Post # 10
YES YES YES!! Anytime someone throws you a party, I think you should thank them with a *token of your appreciation*. It’s not an etiquette thing, it’s an appreciation thing. "Thank you for making the effort to celebrate our engagement". ESPECIALLY if they are bridesmaids- you don’t want to start hurt feelings or resentment this early! I think being gracious is a huge part of being a successful bride.
And the gifts don’t need to be expensive or big. The suggestions above are lovely.
Post # 11
Thanks for all the great advice, everyone! I thought that a little something and of course a thank you note would be really nice. I just know it all adds up, but I love all your suggestions. Thanks again! 🙂