(Closed) ‘Thank you Mrs…” “Actually, it’s Miss”

posted 9 years ago in Names
  • poll: Do you mind being called by the wrong title (Mrs, miss, ms etc)?

    I don't mind it

    Yes! It really annoys me

    I've never thought of it before

    I've never had that happen to me

  • Post # 17
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    It doesn’t really bother me, but it does bother me when people assume I’m my dad’s wife. Yell

    Post # 18
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    1111 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I have never been called Mrs., but I wouldn’t mind being called Miss/Mrs. regardless of my marital status.

    What I DO hate is “Ma’am.”  *shudder*  I would never tell the person I don’t like it since they’re always just trying to be polite – but it makes me think, “When did I start looking like a ma’am instead of a miss?”

    Post # 19
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Nope, doesn’t bother me at all.  You get used to “Ms.” really fast in law school… the professors address everyone as either “Ms.” or “Mr.”  

    Post # 20
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    5089 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I’m surprised people dislike “ms.” That never would have occurred to me. Why? I always think of it as the neutral term of respect, equivalent to “mr.” Whereas “miss” and “mrs” are both about whether you’re married or not, which I personally find annoying. I don’t want my title defined by my marital status.

    Post # 21
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    4346 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

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    @MissBoPeep:  Yea thats really weird. I guess maybe your dad looks really young or had you when he was really young? But I personally don’t see that many couples IRL that are 20+ years apart (I have no idea how old your dad was when he had you).

    Post # 22
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    Doesn’t bother me.  In my field, all women are addressed as Ms. regardless of age or marital status.

    Post # 23
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    4693 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

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    @asscherlover:  I’m 22, my dad is 56.  -__- We work together so people always come in and when they find out we have the same last name they say , “Oooh, so you’re boss’s wife?” Nope, sorry.

    Post # 24
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    It doesn’t bother me and I would never correct someone who’s tring to be polite.

    Post # 25
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    2559 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Doesn’t bother me personally, although I use the term Ms. on formal documents regardless of marital status because I was taught that that was the neutral, and ma’am in person if I’m in a service position (although I’ve never actually verbally called someone Miss, that would seem strange to me. Maybe it’s a Southern thing?)

    Post # 26
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    Bumble bee

    Mrs. bothers me if they call me by my last name.  It doesn’t if they call me by FI’s last name.  I won’t bother to correct the latter, but I do give my first and last name, and some pick up on it, some don’t.  Whatever.  FI witnessed it one day, and goes “It’s weird hearing them call you Mrs. mylastname!  You’re not my mom!”

    My mom used to get really worked up over people calling her Mrs. Dad/Me/Brother’s last name.  

     

    Post # 27
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    218 posts
    Helper bee

    @mightywombat  I agree, the introduction of the term Ms. was supposed to replace the use of the terms Miss and Mrs. so that there was one form of address that was not based on a person’s marital status. Historically a man was referred to as Master until he was married and then became Mr. However now, only the term Mr. is used. In my opinion it should be the same for women, I would never refer to a grown woman as anything but Ms.

    Post # 28
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Maybe I’m just super unobservant, but I honestly can rarely tell the difference in the spoken version of Miss, Ms, or Mrs…it always sounds like everyone pronounces them the exact same. Ma’am has never bothered me, I think it’s the whole Southern politeness thing. It doesn’t make me feel old or anything, hell I call people my own age or younger ma’am, it’s just a sign of respect to me.

    Post # 29
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

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    @Crabbabs:  This is how I think they should be pronounced.

    I’ve seen threads about this before but I realize now that the last time I called someone by one of these titles was while I was in grade school? And even then I just said Ms. (Miz). I’ve been doing it wrong!

    But I get Miss a lot which I think is pretty standard.

    Post # 30
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I’m with 

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    @Crabbabs 
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    @mightywombat and a couple others– it surprises me that so many posters are offended by Ms., it’s totally, totally my default and what I absolutely prefer, both before I was married and now.

    in related news, the French government officially stopped using their version of “miss” just yesterday: http://www.nytimes.com/2012/02/23/world/europe/france-drops-mademoiselle-from-official-use.html 

    Post # 31
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    It annoys me. But with the incredible lack of titles in our day and age in America, I realize I’m lucky to be called Miss, Ms or Mrs by anyone anymore 😉 I swear I’m raising my kids to show respect to their elders by using titles and saying please and thank you. 

    When people call me Mrs so and so it irks me, only because that’s not my name. I don’t usually correct them though unless it’s something legal or someone who already knows better…. it’s been months.. really, if it hasn’t changed on FB or email, I’m probably not changing it… let’s just assume here! 

    I always go with Ms. for women to be sure, it covers single, engaged, married or divorced…. hopefully with as little irritation from the other person if I am wrong. 

    What I can’t stand is being introduced with no name at all…. for the longest time I was just so and so’s girlfriend, fiance or wife with no name introduction at all. I do have a name and I like when people use it 🙂 

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