(Closed) Thank you note curiosity….

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What is your opinion on thank you notes?
    Handwritten with something personal : (43 votes)
    48 %
    Typed up is fine, as long as it's personal : (2 votes)
    2 %
    Generic thank you for attending is perfectly fine : (1 votes)
    1 %
    other.. explain below please :) : (3 votes)
    3 %
    1-3 months after wedding : (32 votes)
    36 %
    3-6 months after wedding : (8 votes)
    9 %
    6-9 months after wedding : (0 votes)
    up to a year is perfectly acceptable : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Member
    52 posts
    Worker bee

    Personally, I would write out thankyou notes individually and send them out right after my honey moon. So maybe a 1-3 month window? But, I know everyone is different and I wouldn’t feel offended to get a generic pre-made one. I can see how they would be more convenient for some couples.

    Post # 4
    Member
    7975 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I’ll be honest – if it’s been more than 2 months since your wedding, and I get a thank you note, I’m surprised and think it’s a little weird. I know that etiquette says better late than never, but I’m not the kind of person to keep track, so I will have forgotten all about it by then, hahaha…

    We hand wrote all of ours, personalized for all our guests, within a month of the wedding. I needed to give myself a deadline or it would have never happened.

    We also turned it into a sort of game – I did most, but J did the ones for his family members + anyone I’d never met before the wedding, so I did 8 a day and he did 2-3 a day, and we raced to see who could finish (all of them) first. I won. YAY ME! hahaha….

    Post # 5
    Member
    937 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I hand wrote all the notes myself with something personal in each one. After the wedding we were in Europe for 2 weeks and then my sister was hospitalized when we returned, so I was a little delayed in getting them out- I got them out in about a month and a half, though.

    Post # 7
    Member
    937 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Wow- you didn’t get a thank you note for her shower? That’s really rude. I also hand wrote all my shower thank you’s with personal notes in each one, and I had them out within 3-4 weeks of my shower.

    Post # 8
    Member
    7695 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I think if you are going to do a photo card you should also include a personalized note. We just wrote handwritten notes and got them out within less than 3 months from our wedding. Some we got out right after the honeymoon, some we got out in September and some towards the end of October

    While I dont think that one should wait up to a year to send out thank you notes I dont think it is absolutely unheard of. I think its best to try to get your thank yous out by the 3month mark and if you cant by that time try to do it by 6 months

    Post # 9
    Member
    769 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    I think you really need to handwrite them.  It doesn’t have to be long, but at least a “Thank you, Aunt Jody, for the vase.  We love it, and it looks great in our house.” 

    Post # 10
    Member
    46326 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Write the thank you notes when you receive the gifts- especially the ones you get delivered before the wedding. This saves so much time after. It’s also easier to write the note when you are still so excited about receiving it.

    Pop on a stamp and mail after the wedding.

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