Post # 1
I was cleaning out one of my drawers and came across an old thank you note from a friend’s wedding. It had a cute picture of them, but the note was obviously a generic, typed thank you that they sent to everyone-whether they sent a gift or not and it sort of hit me wrong. It made me curious if I am the only one that would think it was a little odd/rude or if anyone else would get that feeling.
I just wanted to get all of your opinions on thank you notes… not necessarily etiquette, just what you feel is right way to go about writing them..
Also, how long after the event (whether wedding, or shower) do they need to go out?
Post # 3
Personally, I would write out thankyou notes individually and send them out right after my honey moon. So maybe a 1-3 month window? But, I know everyone is different and I wouldn’t feel offended to get a generic pre-made one. I can see how they would be more convenient for some couples.
Post # 4
I’ll be honest – if it’s been more than 2 months since your wedding, and I get a thank you note, I’m surprised and think it’s a little weird. I know that etiquette says better late than never, but I’m not the kind of person to keep track, so I will have forgotten all about it by then, hahaha…
We hand wrote all of ours, personalized for all our guests, within a month of the wedding. I needed to give myself a deadline or it would have never happened.
We also turned it into a sort of game – I did most, but J did the ones for his family members + anyone I’d never met before the wedding, so I did 8 a day and he did 2-3 a day, and we raced to see who could finish (all of them) first. I won. YAY ME! hahaha….
Post # 5
I hand wrote all the notes myself with something personal in each one. After the wedding we were in Europe for 2 weeks and then my sister was hospitalized when we returned, so I was a little delayed in getting them out- I got them out in about a month and a half, though.
Post # 6
I think it was easily 5 months before I got her wedding one, I never recieved one for the bridal shower. I don’t think I would have been so wierded out about it if it was a handwritten note or personal one, but I feel like it was just thank you with no true feeling behind it. She also texted me like 2 days before to make sure I was watching for it… wierd.
Post # 7
Wow- you didn’t get a thank you note for her shower? That’s really rude. I also hand wrote all my shower thank you’s with personal notes in each one, and I had them out within 3-4 weeks of my shower.
Post # 8
I think if you are going to do a photo card you should also include a personalized note. We just wrote handwritten notes and got them out within less than 3 months from our wedding. Some we got out right after the honeymoon, some we got out in September and some towards the end of October
While I dont think that one should wait up to a year to send out thank you notes I dont think it is absolutely unheard of. I think its best to try to get your thank yous out by the 3month mark and if you cant by that time try to do it by 6 months
Post # 9
I think you really need to handwrite them. It doesn’t have to be long, but at least a “Thank you, Aunt Jody, for the vase. We love it, and it looks great in our house.”
Post # 10
Write the thank you notes when you receive the gifts- especially the ones you get delivered before the wedding. This saves so much time after. It’s also easier to write the note when you are still so excited about receiving it.
Pop on a stamp and mail after the wedding.
Post # 11
@Monkeygirl: I know right?! Especially since she had someone writting down everything that was given to her, and it was a small crowd. but nope!
@Amani: That’s how I feel too… I will handwrite mine–with FI’s help.. hopefully 😉 and try my best to get them out as quickly as possible.