Post # 1
Quick question about thank you note etiquette.
I am having a domestic destination/weekend wedding. The closest guest to the location is 2 hours away. Most are 4+ or out of state. So I am planning on doing Out of Town bags.
I would like to include a personal note in every bag, time permitting. However, if those notes could also count as the thank you notes for people who don’t send a gift (I would of course send a separate note for gifts), that would actually inspire me more to finish them. Because everyone is travelling, I expect a lower than average number of people to bring gifts.
Thoughts? Can a thank you note in an Out of Town bag cover the “Thank you for attending my wedding” note?
Be totally honest, I’m not emotionally invested in this yet.
Post # 3
Sorry I answered before I read your post (I shouldn’t do that LOL)
If you are still sending Thank yous on top of those thank you’s for gifts – I think you are golden!
Post # 4
I think you’re ok. We had favours at our wedding, a thankyou note on the programs and said thankyou to everyone in person who was there. Am I going to handwrite and send thankyous to people who came but didn’t give a gift or card? No. I have already thanked them for their presence so I don’t think I need to do it again.
Post # 5
I wanted to do the same thing for our DW-but instead we ended up with Out of Town bags that had personalized items in them so I think that counted. 🙂
Post # 6
oops! should have read your post first before i voted! if you are sending thank you’s for people who give gifts then that’s totally fine!
Post # 7
I also think you’d be okay as long as you sent another note to those that brought a gift. = )
Post # 8
I’m very relieved that you’re not suggesting that for gift thank yous! But still, I say no, because I’d rather have a personalized note (get small paper so you don’t write as much, making the process faster and easier) or just a mention in person – “thanks for coming, it means so much to me”. Mind you, ‘personalized’ doesn’t mean original for each, just a handwritten “thanks ___, I’m glad you could come/looking forward to seeing you”. Get your Fiance to do half! Although, if you’re including something like a list of restaurants in the Out of Town bag, it could say Thanks for coming at the top.
Post # 9
I think just a quick thank you note is fine! it’s not like you aren’t sending a gift thank you….i know ours said “hey thanks for coming!” or som4thing like that.
Then we sent our real thank yous
Post # 10
Sounds fine to me since you are sending the real thank you notes for any presents.