(Closed) Thank You Note Etiquette

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Can a thank you note in the OOT bag serve as the thank you for attending the ceremony note?
    Yes! : (17 votes)
    47 %
    Heck no : (18 votes)
    50 %
    Well...maybe, and this is why: : (1 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    6597 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Sorry I answered before I read your post (I shouldn’t do that LOL)

    If you are still sending Thank yous on top of those thank you’s for gifts – I think you are golden!

    Post # 4
    Member
    1104 posts
    Bumble bee

    I think you’re ok. We had favours at our wedding, a thankyou note on the programs and said thankyou to everyone in person who was there. Am I going to handwrite and send thankyous to people who came but didn’t give a gift or card? No. I have already thanked them for their presence so I don’t think I need to do it again.

    Post # 5
    Member
    483 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I wanted to do the same thing for our DW-but instead we ended up with Out of Town bags that had personalized items in them so I think that counted. 🙂

    Post # 6
    Member
    101 posts
    Blushing bee

    oops! should have read your post first before i voted! if you are sending thank you’s for people who give gifts then that’s totally fine!

    Post # 7
    Member
    5498 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I also think you’d be okay as long as you sent another note to those that brought a gift. = )

    Post # 8
    Member
    248 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’m very relieved that you’re not suggesting that for gift thank yous!  But still, I say no, because I’d rather have a personalized note (get small paper so you don’t write as much, making the process faster and easier) or just a mention in person – “thanks for coming, it means so much to me”.  Mind you, ‘personalized’ doesn’t mean original for each, just a handwritten “thanks ___, I’m glad you could come/looking forward to seeing you”.  Get your Fiance to do half!  Although, if you’re including something like a list of restaurants in the Out of Town bag, it could say Thanks for coming at the top. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I think just a quick thank you note is fine! it’s not like you aren’t sending a gift thank you….i know ours said “hey thanks for coming!” or som4thing like that.

    Then we sent our real thank yous

    Post # 10
    Hostess
    18644 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Sounds fine to me since you are sending the real thank you notes for any presents.

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