(Closed) Thank you note etiquette – help

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
5075 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

Dear Jane,

Thank you so much for coming to my shower – and for the blender.  I know we’re going to get a lot of use out of it!

Looking forward to seeing you at the wedding!




Post # 4
2616 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

simple– thank them for coming to shower, and whatever gift they got you. and how u cant wait to use whatever it is in your new stage in life.




Post # 5
2711 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Mine went something like this.


Thank you so much for X!  It’s so nice and pretty/soft/useful/handy/amazing/something-to-describe-gift.  We really appreciate it and can’t wait to use it!  (I’d also include an example of when we’d use it; such as using the breadmaker or making pizza dough or the camping percolator for coffee while camping because coffee is awesome.)

Thanks again!



They don’t have to be anything super long or involved.  It’s to say you’re greatful for the gift!



Post # 6
4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

“Dear Name- I’m so glad you were able to make it to my wedding shower. It was such a great day for me, to be surrounded by so much love!

Thanks so much for the (item name). It’s going to get a lot of use, as you know how we like to entertain. Fiance and I are both very glad that you’ll be sharing in our special day.

Thanks again! Love, the bride”

Basically- I thank people for their attendance first, then the gift, and give an idea how we might use it.

“thank you so much for the sheets from crate & barrel! New bedding is one of those luxuries that I have a hard time buying for myself, and at 8-hour a day, we’ll get a lot of use out of it.” 

“Thank you so much for the place settings. We now have enough of this dinnerware collection that we can host family at the holidays! We’re so looking forward to seeing you and celebrating our wedding day with you!”

Post # 7
1876 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

You have never written a thank you note before?Crazytown!

I write thank yous for everything, and no lie – I have to google it every. single. time. Mostly because I like to have a “template”. So – here are some ideas from google:


1. Thank the guest for sharing this special event with you.
2. Thank her for the gift and describe it with a positive adjective and also an identifying detail (cheerful yellow bath towels, exquisite crystal vase).
3. Tell your guest how you plan to use her gift and that you’ll think of her whenever you use it.
4. Reiterate your thanks and express that you’re looking forward to seeing her at your wedding.
5. Don’t sign off too formally (avoid “sincerely”). Use words like “with thanks,” “much love,” “warmly,” or “yours.”
from here: http://www.ivillage.com/bridal-shower-etiquette-thank-you-notes/5-n-282229


And here’s a sample template:


Dear (Insert name)

Thank you for coming to the bridal shower and the beautiful (insert name of gift). It was the/a (insert compliment such as perfect color). Your generosity (or kindness) is truly appreciated. Thanks again.”

Sincerely, (or Warm Regards, Love, Best)

Your Name



Post # 8
583 posts
Busy bee

I’ve gotten a billion compliments on my thank you notes, people keep writing to my mom saying that they’re saving my notes, they’re so amazing, etc.  Here’s my formula.

Dear ________

Thank you for the generous/wonderful/lovely gift of ________________.  We were so happy to receive it because _________________.  We can’t wait to use it for _____________ (or share how you did use it).  (I then usually try to work in a funny anecdote here, like for a note about new sheets, I made a joke about how our puppy destroyed our old ones – which she did – and how we plan to keep her away from these new ones at all costs and expect her take on her responsibilities of an adult dog a little more seriously).

It was so lovely seeing you at the shower, I had so much fun with you there / It was so kind of you to send a gift even though you couldn’t attend; we sure missed you!  I hope that you and _________ are doing well (or some other comment about how you think they may be doing or something related to their interests).  We sure hope that you can make it to the wedding, we would love to see you there!

Thank you once again for the generous gift!


Cdubz & Fiancee

Post # 9
175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@RunsWithBears:  This is exactly what I was going to say! Exactly on point with etiquette, and quite frankly what I expect when I receive a thank you note.

It is important you put in details about how/ when you will use it or if you already have!
Use adjectives and details so it’s not cookie cutter.


Post # 10
175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@LaurenKK:  +1 LOVE IT!
                                         This is how I write mine as well!

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