Post # 1
I have an etiquette question. Our wedding is in 40 days. We’ve started receiving wedding gifts, both from people attending the wedding and not. We’re not getting our thank you notes until after the wedding, because we most likely are using a photo from the day. If we don’t go that route, I probably won’t have them til around the wedding.
I have prettyish thank you cards that I’ve been using for shower gifts (I had THREE!) The question is, do I send these people thank you notes NOW on non-weddingy thank you cards? Do I wait until I have the official thank yous? Do I send the shower ones to people who aren’t attending (so they know I got the gift) and hold on the people who are coming?
Help would be greatly appreciated. I’m really confused on what to do and it’s causing me anxiety. 🙂
Post # 3
I’d say don’t use the shower ones-use the wedding ones for all but specify what you are thanking them for (such a thoughtful gift or whetev. vs. gift & celebrating your day w. you)…at least 3 sentences too:)
Post # 4
@Miss Bravo: Thanks! What I meant to ask, though, was about timing. Is it rude to wait so long to send thank you notes for gifts that have arrived so early?
Post # 5
🙂 I believe that ASAP for gifts received before the wedding is traditional-but if you’re using a photo then it trumps that practice and the timeline.
Post # 6
Honestly, I would send the thank you notes sooner rather than later. I don’t know about if people will think it’s rude to wait, but people will want to know that you rec’d their gifts. I know that when I send a gift to someone, I like to know as soon as possible that they got it.
Post # 7
I agree with Miss Bravo. While it’s ideal to send them ASAP, I thik if you are waiting for a photo, you should just send them with the otheres. Besides you don’t want them to miss out on the cute photo, just because they sent the gift early.
Post # 8
I agree that as a guest, I would want to know that you got the gift. However, I actually waited until I got the wedding pictures to send the Thank You cards because I really wanted people to get the "special" Thank You cards. I usually receive thank you cards from weddings that I’ve attended in about 3-6 months so I figure that people can wait until after the wedding to get a Thank You card.
Post # 9
Etiquette doesn’t care if the picture is cute-although I am sure it will be! Send the cards now on whatever thank you cards you have already. Your guests will appreciate that you took the time to thank them and you don’t want them to wonder where their note is. If you want them to see the cute photo cards you can always send a second one thanking them for coming after the wedding, though I doubt you’ll want to do that.
Plus…less to do after your honeymoon!