(Closed) Thank You Note Etiquette Question

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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2030 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Two gifts = two thank you notes, according to my Emily Post book. It might be nice to use two different stationary sets though, so it doesn’t all look the same. You can pick up cute shower notes at the dollar store so it wouldn’t have to cost much.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I agree.  Two notes.

I think send a nice thank you for the shower right away.

Then later (because nobody expects a wedding thank you immediately), when your pro pics are ready, send the wedding thank yous with a photo of you and the groom.

I’m not sure how most people feel, but I LOVE getting that single pro pic of the couple.  Most guest shots are really hit of miss because you’re in the crowd- so getting that great shot of the bride and groom is special. 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

I agree, in DesignBee’s situation – two notes should be sent (spaced apart time-wise) if the gifts were sent separately from each other.

But what about when someone sends two gifts at once? I just got a shower gift and a wedding gift in the same package, from a guest who can’t come to either. Her note said "congrats! Mattress pad is the shower gift, sheets are wedding gift" (which felt a little… abrupt!). It seemed superfluous to send 2 thank-yous when the gift-giver had combined the two.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

If both gifts come in the same package, I would send one thank you note!  Where the gifts come separately, I would (and did) sent two.  Or in one case, three – one of my mom’s good friends sent a present when she heard we were engaged – which she indicated on the card was not a shower or wedding present.  Maybe it was an engagement present?  We later got both a shower and wedding present from her.  She’s cleaning up on the thank you notes.

I love your guest’s note GorgesViola – she must have been in a big hurry, or maybe it was a really small card?  Too funny.

Post # 7
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Worker bee

If the gifts came at separate times, they get separate thank yous. It’s annoying, but it’s good etiquette and people will be happy to be thanked appropriately.

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