Thank you note- no gift?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
670 posts
Busy bee

We ended up designing a photo postcard with a generic thank you message on the back and then added some printed family photos to the package. We sent those to everyone regardless and added a small notecard thanking those who gave gifts. We did have exceptions for those who travelled from away – I think that’s a huge gift in itself. For anyone who significantly helped with the wedding, we had some family friends who did some amazing things, we bought full size thank you cards and sent them out in addition to the above.  I agree with the other bees, only you’ll know if people will be offended though. 

Post # 17
1529 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Just send a card with the photos that isn’t a thank you card! “Hi! Just got these photos back from our wedding and thought you might enjoy them! I hope you are well. Let’s get together soon!”

Post # 18
1123 posts
Bumble bee

We had one person who didn’t get us a gift or card. I still sent them a thank you at the same time as the others but just thanked them for being there and sharing in our day.

It didn’t bother me at all that they didn’t get us a gift/card, it was a single guy friend of Darling Husband and it made me giggle as if it wasn’t for being with me Darling Husband would likely have done the same a few times. Men are useless!

Post # 19
868 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I had one person not give me a gift, but she traveled a great distance to be there. Instead of sending her a thank you for coming in the mail, I just texted her and told her that we were so happy that she was able to attend and celebrate with us.

Yes, it seems weird not to send her a mailed note, but alas, I don’t want to seem grabby.

Post # 20
32 posts
  • Wedding: March 2018

marryingmichael :  I don’t think it is gift grabby at all, but it depends on what you write in the card. I would make sure to express my gratitude for the bridesmaid that you acknowledged was there for you, and include 1 or 2 things she did that you are grateful for.


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