(Closed) Thank you note question

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
4193 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I think you’re fine with sending one-get it out of the way now

Post # 4
3375 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I wouldn’t send it yet…

Macy’s said that a gift had been purchased for me off my registry, but my friend never gave it to me! i guess she decided not to? Anyways, don’t send it until you get the gift.

Post # 5
3697 posts
Sugar bee

@MDC6.9.12:  I think you’re fine going with either option. The advantage to sending them now is that you get it out of the way (as noted) and you can let the giver know that the first part of the gift arrived (I’ve heard that one of the things gift-givers really appreciate about thank-you notes is that, when they send a gift that’s shipped to the recipient rather than, say, hand-delivered at the wedding or shower, getting the Thank You note allows them to know the gift arrived safely). They also might appreciate the heads-up that part of it has not arrived yet.

That said, it also might be good to let them know when the second part does arrive, so you could make a case for waiting until then to send the note. If you send it now, you might want to just call/email the giver when the backordered item shows up, to confirm that it got to you safely.

Post # 6
3121 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

For the sake of an awkward conversation later (“Uhhhh, yeah….that gift never came) I would just wait. 

Post # 7
1425 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I’d say something like, “Thank you for the canisters. They’re [insert how great they are]. And you’re so generous! We received notice that the [insert Dillard’s gift] is on its way. [And blabber on how wonderful everything is].”

Post # 8
1361 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’d send the thank you now, and just drop a quick email later to let them know the second gift arrived in one piece.

Post # 9
581 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I would send the one and wait on the other one.  I think it’s a little weird to send a thank you note based on an email that this person didn’t even send even if it is clearly coming directly to you. 

Did she also tell you it was backordered or was the Dillard’s e-mail the only one you recieves? Maybe I would send the second one if she had sent a personal e-mail letting you know it’s backordered and when to expect to recieve it.

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