(Closed) Thank you note questions and a vent about FI…

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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1199 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@futuremrste:  

Q1: yes i think its OK to give Thank You notes in person to coworkers.  My coworkers chipped in to buy me something and I brought in a card for the group the next day.

Q2: honestly I wouldn’t send a Thank You note for your friends taking you out. People go out for dinner/drinks a lot, and sometimes they split, or one person/couple pays and you don’t send out a card every time that happens.

My Darling Husband has really bad handwriting, so I just wrote out all the Thank You notes.  It wasn’t a big deal.  Not sure why you need his family’s addresses now if your wedding is next year though?  You’ll have to get the addresses for invites or Save-The-Date Cards anyway, so you’ll have them by the time you send out TYs unless they got you engagement gifts.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Stammie16:  Agreed.

I’m the one with the crappy handwriting though, and FI’s grandmother ground sending thank you notes into him at a young age. Phew!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Q1: Yes, I’ve given and received notes in person. A co-worker who is also a dear friend handed me her rsvp card in person. It’s fine.

Q2: I would send an email or fb message thank you for that. Just a quick note saying you appreciated it and had a lovely time. People do like to know that you were still thinking of it later, which is what the note conveys, but a handwritten note may be too formal. 

Many men are raised thinking all these things are the bride’s job – my Fiance is somewhat involved in planning, but it’s pretty rare in our circle. When we went to buy a wedding gift a few weeks ago or a friend who’s getting married this weekend, he had no idea where they were even registered. He did seem aware later what the gift was and that it was from us, but I assure you that thank you card was all her doing. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@futuremrste:  I would still say no. I’d think it odd to receive a formal thank you card for a dinner out.

Post # 8
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1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I always err on the side of sending thank yous.  You don’t need to send them to anyone who gives just a card or just attends your reception, but any gifts, money, flowers, or meals out deserve a handwritten thank you.

As for your Fiance and his handwriting – I’m in the same boat.  When it comes time to get ours out, I’ll likely write them out and address, and give them to Fiance to sign, seal and stamp, so at least I’m not doing EVERYTHING.

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