Post # 1
How have you ladies been writing your thank you notes?
…do they all sound the same with a different word in the blank for the gift you received?
I’m really trying to make my notes personal, but after 5 or so, I run out of interesting things to say besides-“thanks for coming to the wedding, thanks for the gift” If we received money I usually try to say what we plan to use it for…but it’s been especially hard for the thank you notes to friends of my parents that I don’t know very well.
Do you have a template you use, or have any tips for good wording? I could use them!
Post # 3
I tried to focus a bit on the person and our relationship with them… and how much the rel’p has meant over the years. Cheesy but hopefully effective!
Post # 4
my friend used this when writing hers and she said it was helpful: [i’m not sure of the source]
“Perfect Thank-You Notes
Dear Jon and Elizabeth, Our wedding made us realize, not just how lucky we are to have each other, but also how blessed we are to have such loving family and friends. We’re so happy that you were able to come to our wedding and be a part of the best day we’ve ever had. It brings a smile to our faces to see you (in sunglasses, of course!) in our wedding pictures, which we’ll cherish forever. Thank you very much for the sets of flatware. You know how much we like to eat, so it will certainly get tons of use! Love, Ashley and Jeremy
* This is a unique touch: The writers are first and foremost conveying appreciation for their friends as loving people, even before expressing thanks for the gift.
* It’s easy to forget the effort guests made to attend an event. Acknowledging the gift of their presence has tremendous impact.
* By highlighting a personal detail, such as the sunglasses, the writers make their friends feel special. This says, “You’re not just two of the 200 people we invited.”
* Being specific about how a gift will be incorporated into the recipients’ lives assures the givers that their trouble and expense were worthwhile.
Four Strategies for Thank-Yous
* Open with enthusiasm. “What a (blank) sweater/book/vase!” or “You really know how to throw a (blank)!” says just what the recipient wants to hear — that you enjoyed the gift or the event.
* Don’t repeat yourself or it will come off as filling space. Even “thank you” said over and over begins to seem less than genuine.
* Reflect the effort made on your behalf with the effort you put into your note. Do not send a casual e-mail unless you’re thanking someone for a casual favor. And never send an impersonal note or merely sign a store-bought card. This implies that while the recipient took pains, you can’t spare the time to be as thoughtful.
* Don’t stress about making every note unique. If you have many thank-yous to send, write a template that you can personalize in parts. People aren’t literally going to compare notes.”
Post # 5
Both Mrs. Tiramisu and Mrs. Canary shared templates for thank you cards that may be helpful to you.
Post # 6
drealeah –that’s a good one! There’s also this example from Emily Post:
Post # 7
Oh, I’m saving this post to my favorites. Thanks for all the links!