(Closed) Thank you note to difficult bridesmaid

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
4972 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

That she kept you focused??  

Post # 4
1776 posts
Buzzing bee

@californiabride2013:  “thank you for being my friend and standing up with me on my wedding day.  I know you spent time, effort and money to be here today and I appreciate it.”  You don’t have to really mean it, and you can mutter under your breath about the problems she caused to be there.  But something like the above lets you take the high road.

…If you still want a relationship with her and haven’t decided to completely write her out of your life you may want to add something like:  “Now that the wedding is over I hope we can spend some time together in a relaxed and fun setting without wedding stress being a part of the equation.”   


Post # 5
11273 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@californiabride2013:  i had one of these.  best way, short and sweet, “thank you for sharing our special day with us.” 

Post # 6
9142 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@californiabride2013:  Thanks for sharing in our special day. xxx Me.

Post # 7
3082 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@mypinkshoes:  Yea I would make it short and sweet too.

I just don’t understand why a bridesmaid would be difficult. They wouldn’t appreciate it or like it if you were difficult for them. If they are going to complain and be a pain, then I would rather have them say no. I had a difficult bridesmaid, and I’m planning on talking to her when she asks me to a bridesmaid and tell her how she made me feel like crap. And how she wouldn’t appreciate it if I did the same thing to her, which I wouldn’t but I half hope that someone gives her the same trouble that she gave me. I mean they do kind of deserve to know, not that they would really care if they treated you that terrible.

Post # 9
3082 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@californiabride2013:  I completely understand. And it really doesn’t make you a bad person. Friends should be their for their friends. I don’t have a ton of friends, but the ones that I do are quality and that’s really all that matters.


Post # 10
720 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I would be non-commital about it, really. If you can think of something specific you can thank her for, go for it. (“Thank you for helping Great-Aunt Mildred get settled into her cab at the end of the night. It was thoughtful of you.”) Add the generic “Thank you for being part of our special day” and you’re done. Take some time to cool off, and go from there.

Post # 11
3587 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

@Astra:  That’s funny, I like that.

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