(Closed) Thank You note to ex-best friend/bridesmaid?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would definately send her a card thanking her for her gift and help with your wedding. I would keep it short and polite, wish her well and then move on. She deserves thanks for what she did, but as you said I wouldn’t say anything more to hash up old feelings.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

How about this:

 

Dear A,

Thank you so much for _____________________ at our wedding – you were an important part of an amazing day and I’ll never forget that.

Its unfortunate that our friendship has come to an end, but I wish you the best. Please take care of yourself.

Sincerely,

MamaHusky

 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@penguinsaremyfriends: I’ll ditto this. Keep a thankyou general but still thank the person. That way no one can blame you. 

Post # 6
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441 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Im sorry your going through this! Personally, I would send her one, if she lashes out and tries to contact you, just ignore her. Since she did help you a lot with your wedding I would definitly send a card.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think you should definitely write a thank you note. I would keep it to what she did on your wedding day/gifted you guys and not mention any of your issues since then. I don’t think mentioning the fallout has any place in a thank you card (and would probably just encourage her to contact you again).

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper

This would be one case where I’d buy a pretty generic thank you card and send it off with just your signature. No need to make a list of everything she’s done…just sign it.

Post # 9
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1763 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@LGenz: Completely agree:) Do not bring up the fallout stick with what you are saying thanks for.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I wouldnt write her one. I wouldn’t want to think about all the time and effort I put into someones wedding – and now we aren’t friends. I think writing a thank you card will make you feel better, but it woud just hurt her… if that makes any sense. That might just be me though…

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

@Captain013: I’m the opposite way. I’d prob be thinking “and that B didn’t even write me a thank you card!”

Post # 12
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5977 posts
Bee Keeper

@LGenz: Hah…I’m with you. Despite the falling out, I’d be pretty angry if I didn’t get a thank you card!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@LGenz: lol to each her own 🙂 The thank you would rub salt in my wound – and make me think hey maybe she wants to be my friend again. And for the record I am all for thank you notes. 🙂

on a side note who kept the doliys? They take forever to make.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Send the thank you as that is the right thing to do, do not include the fall out stuff.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

@MamaHusky3: Thanking her for her help is important, but if she kept the gifts that she gave you (including the money), and if you thanked her profusely for her help and gave her a gift, I think you can skip a card.

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