(Closed) Thank you notes

posted 11 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
34 posts
  • Wedding: May 2009

I don’t think you have to send a thank you if they didn’t send you a gift. Their thank you for coming was the meal/drinks/entertainment you provided at the reception. I’ll be interested in seeing what others say, but this is what I think I’ve read before After all, if someone sent you a gift prior to your wedding and you sent a thank you then, you wouldn’t send another thank you just for attending, right?

Post # 4
1022 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Technically, according to Emily Post, guests have up to 1 year after the wedding to give a gift.  And you don’t have to send thank you’s for just coming to the wedding.  It’s a nice thought, but if the guest ends up sending a gift after, then you’ll have to write a second thank you note.  Would you want them to get to thank you cards that are the same?  If you really want to send everyone a thank you card that attended the wedding, I would still wait a little longer before sending them out, just in case there aren’t any stragglers. 

Post # 5
1078 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

Madalynn17 is correct! Etiquette allows guests to send a gift within 1 year of your wedding.

So definitely hold off on those non-gift-giving thank you cards. It’s possible they are holding off on sending the gift, for some reason. (be it financially, or another factor.)

Should nothing come within 1 year from them, the meal/drinks/festivities you provided at your wedding are "thank you" enough for their attendance. 

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