Post # 1
So we are finishing up thanks you notes for wedding gifts. There were quite a few guests that did not get us anything or have sent anything (it’s been 6 weeks). Should we write thank yous to those people with a generic "thank you for coming to our wedding" or do we need to send anything at all? I’m totally willing to write them, but should we wait a little longer to see if gifts get sent?
Post # 3
I don’t think you have to send a thank you if they didn’t send you a gift. Their thank you for coming was the meal/drinks/entertainment you provided at the reception. I’ll be interested in seeing what others say, but this is what I think I’ve read before After all, if someone sent you a gift prior to your wedding and you sent a thank you then, you wouldn’t send another thank you just for attending, right?
Post # 4
Technically, according to Emily Post, guests have up to 1 year after the wedding to give a gift. And you don’t have to send thank you’s for just coming to the wedding. It’s a nice thought, but if the guest ends up sending a gift after, then you’ll have to write a second thank you note. Would you want them to get to thank you cards that are the same? If you really want to send everyone a thank you card that attended the wedding, I would still wait a little longer before sending them out, just in case there aren’t any stragglers.
Post # 5
Madalynn17 is correct! Etiquette allows guests to send a gift within 1 year of your wedding.
So definitely hold off on those non-gift-giving thank you cards. It’s possible they are holding off on sending the gift, for some reason. (be it financially, or another factor.)
Should nothing come within 1 year from them, the meal/drinks/festivities you provided at your wedding are "thank you" enough for their attendance.