Post # 1
We had a couple’s bridal shower 2 weeks before the wedding and I did not have time to write thank you notes for them before the wedding. I was wondering, should I send out separate thank you notes for the gifts from the couple’s shower or is it ok to include a thank you for those gifts in the thank you notes for gifts from the wedding? I don’t want to appear cheap or do some faux pas so I thought I would check! Any opinions would be appreciated. Thanks!
Post # 3
I would think someone was silly if I got two seperate thank you cards in one envelope lol. I would just mention the shower gift and the wedding gift in one card especially since your shower and wedding were so close together.
Post # 4
If it were me, I would just write one thank you. We had two showers, one in October and one in November, so I had time to write all of them before the wedding. If my situation were like yours, I would have just done one.
Post # 5
always one thank you per gift. otherwise you’ll appear lazy.
eta: people easily could have given you just one gift that said “happy shower and wedding!” but they didn’t. they bought you 2 separate gifts. why wouldn’t you do the same for the thank yous?
Post # 6
I think people would understand getting just one thank you card that mentioned both gifts since they were so close together.
I definitely wouldn’t do two cards in one envelope. That’s just really odd to me.
Post # 7
I don’t know what the exact traditional etiquette on this, but I can say that if I was the giver, I would be fine with having both gifts mentioned in the same thank-you note, just so long as there hasn’t been an obscenely long time since either gift was given (I’d like to know that the gift was received). I’d also be fine with two thank-yous, but in all honestly, if we’re talking about receiving one thank-you note next week and then a second one the week after, I’d smile, but kind of wonder why the bride just didn’t do two in one shot!
Either way, doing two cards in the same envelope seems unnecessary to me.
Post # 8
I’m a not an etiquette person at all. I wouldn’t be upset if I received one card with a mention of both gifts in the card. I think because the shower is so close to wedding date people are not going to care.
Post # 9
If the shower was 2 weeks before the wedding than I would just write 1 Thank you Card for both.
If the shower had been a few months before than I would have done 2 separate thank yous.
Post # 10
@SoontobeMsL: i agree with this
Post # 11
Tough call but I tend to agree with Kitzy. People could have just given you one gift because they were close together but they didn’t therefore they deserve two cards as well. I would get your shower thank yous sent out asap and your wedding ones can wait a bit especially if you are including pics or anything.
Post # 12
Etiquette says that you should write two totally separate notes. However, if I were one of the gift givers, I’d be completely okay with just getting one note. (I voted for the “one note” option.)
Post # 13
I would just do one note, but specifically mention the shower as well. Like, “thanks for coming for our wedding and the beautiful blah-blah, which we love and will think of you blah blah blah. Also, it was so wonderful to celebrate with you at the shower last month, and the lovely blank was such a generous gift, which we will always cherish, etc.”
Personally, I would be fine with that, though I’d get on sending those thank you notes first, before you get to all the ones of guests who only attended the wedding.