Post # 1
Okay, so I’m curious…
I’ve read a few posts saying you have up to a year?? (really that seems long) to send a thank you note after the wedding.
I always thought that , okay yes I can understand a year if you’re writing them out personally… but we just got one from Future Sister-In-Law and her husband on Friday… and it wasn’t even personalized! Just a picture with “thank you” and their wedding date.
I’m not sure why but it rubbed me the wrong way (maybe because she rubs me the wrong way in general and I find her kind of flakey)
I just felt that if she waited THIS long, there should have been at least a hand written.. something… ANYTHING?!
am I alone on this? or just being picky?
Post # 3
@mayflowerbride13: This would annoy me too. It’s kind of like when you write a letter to a company or something and you get the generic response letter. Hmph!
Post # 4
It would rub me the wrong way, too. I know the etiquette says up to a year, but it really should be as soon as possible…AND personalized.
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
No– you’re not alone. Thank you notes SHOULD be hand written; and honestly– I think a year is too long, but that’s a personal thing.
In my opinion, just sending a picture with a generic “thank you” on it is very insincere, and will likely be seen by many people as rude. If someone takes the time to give you a gift, you should thank them. Spending 5 minutes on a mass mailing is NOT a thank you.
Post # 6
The guests have up to a year to send the couple a gift, but etiquette states that the couple should write their thank you note as soon as possible after the gift is received.
Post # 7
We started writing ours when we returned from our honeymoon on Wednesday and they’re all going out in the mail this morning. And I was sick for most of the weekend. I don’t really understand why it’s so difficult for people to get their Thank You notes done. It took no more than a few hours, and I was able to watch football during that time.
Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
No, the etiquette is not a year for thank yous- it’s 3 months, but you should try to send as soon as possible. Guests have a year to send a gift.
We had thank yous for gifts received at the wedding done within 2 months. To make it easier, I had pre-addressed envelopes for those who had RSVP’d, and I drafted the thank yous in email first, so I wouldn’t waste too many cards.
Even with a large guest list, 3 months is certainly doable, if you do a few every day. I’d also be a little annoyed with a generic thank you- it takes less than 5 minutes to personalize a card!
Post # 9
My dad thought I was being crazy and just bitchy when I was like, wow 11 months late and not even a “dear brother n future sil”
I did personalized notes even just for our engagement party.. like why not write a thank you ont he back of the picture?
we gave them 350$ FFS!!!! take 2 minutes to friggin write…. ANYTHING!
Post # 10
@sportsgal31: Wow! I thought I was doing well & I’m only about 75% done and we returned from our honeymoon 2 weeks ago…
I agree with PPs – thank you cards should be personalized! (And the “one year” rule is false…and ridiculous.)
Post # 11
You don’t have a year. I’m always shocked by how many people think this. The person has a year to send you a gift, you need to send the thank you note ASAP. But ALWAYS hand-written.
Post # 12
thanks, ladies! That’s what I was thinking.
it only took 3 weeks to get thank yous from our house to the house of the guests for the engagement party (and that includes those long distance! AND we did it on customized cards and wrote like 4-5 line personal notes to EACH AND EVERY GUEST)
sorry I’m just really irritated. ESPECIALLY since she is one of those people who thinks she knows everything/is better than everyone.
well HA. guess you don’t know it all now
sorry, I’m done being crazy now 😉
Post # 13
Not even the names, just “thank you”? I guess she feels herself way too important to do anything “right”!
Post # 14
I don’t mind the picture thank you cards as long as there is a personal note on the back of it also.
ETA: I like the idea of the picture because I go to so many weddings without taking a picture of the bride and groom 🙁 I don’t know why, I just get cought up in the moment 🙂
Post # 15
@happyface: nope! not even names, brutal right?
@LovelyLaura: see, that’s what I mean. I’m all for a picture with a little note on the back. but I’m talking.. small.. WALLET SIZED PICTURE… ugh.
ETA: doesn’t even say “thank you for sharing our special day” or ANYTHINg, just “thank you nov 5, 2011” bah
Post # 16
I’ve heard various times when the cards should be sent, but personally I think they should be sent within a month of returning from the honeymoon (or a month after wedding if you are delaying your hM like we are). I remember it took one of my friends 4 to 5 months and I thought that was kind of rude.