(Closed) Thank-You notes for gifts before the wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What should I do about thank-you notes for presents received before the wedding?
    Definitely send a thank-you right away, and then send another one after the wedding. : (3 votes)
    12 %
    Send a thank-you note now for the gift, and don't worry about sending another one after the wedding. : (10 votes)
    40 %
    Just wait until after the wedding and send one note for gifts and for coming to the wedding. : (11 votes)
    44 %
    Other : (1 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    273 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    i feel like you should send a thank you note for gifts you’ve gotten before the wedding just so that the guest knows.  but to be honest a lot of these “rules” have relaxed a lot today.  i would make the decision based on budget and time.  if you have a lot of work/projects before the wedding or you don’t have the budget to send a thank you card for the gift and attendance then i would wait until after the wedding.

    Post # 4
    Member
    10851 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I don’t know because I have the same problem! One of our friends has sent a gift because she wanted us to use it over the summer, but now I don’t know if I should send the thank you now and another one after?! On the other hand, she got married  a year and a half ago and STILL hasn’t sent thank you notes so I know I’m in no danger of offending her if I wait to send a thank you until after the wedding 😉

    Post # 5
    Member
    3148 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I was going to ask this same question today as well….I kind of want to wait (the wedding is in four weeks) and send them a nice thank you with a picture etc…but i also want them to know we recieved it and are very grateful.

    Post # 6
    Member
    13101 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I think you’re close enough to you wedding date at this point that you should just wait and send the thank you afterwards.

    We’re doing all of ours afterward as we’re doing a picture thank you card but I’ve called a couple of people to thank them for gifts we got beforehand (that way they know we received them).

    Post # 7
    Member
    2015 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    For gifts we received before the wedding, we sent thank you’s right away. It was just a personal preference thing, though, because it was one less thing we had to do when we got back. We only got a few gifts ahead of time, though. Most came after we left for our destination wedding, or we were given cards at the wedding.

    Post # 8
    Member
    2066 posts
    Buzzing bee

    If you have time, send thank you notes now.  If not, wait until after the wedding.

    BTW – I don’t think you need to send a seperate thank you note for attending the wedding.

    Post # 9
    Member
    2004 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2008

    Normally I would say to send your thank you notes as soon as you can after you receive the gift so that the sender knows it was received. However, your wedding is so soon that you could wait until after, if you are planning to do some sort of thank-you with photos that you’d like them to have.

    Post # 10
    Member
    1732 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Send a ntoe now.  They want to know you got the gift, if nothing else.

    Post # 11
    Member
    1585 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I received our first gift a few days ago!  It was the most expensive thing on our registry.  I was shocked!  It was our very great friends who gave us the gift and I want to let them know that we received it.  I was also not planning on sending any thank you’s out until after the wedding.  Even for early gifts, but I didn’t think we would receive a gift 3 months before!

    Any advice would help…

    Post # 12
    Member
    2226 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I was told not to send a thank you till after the wedding.  But, in an effort to save time and your hand, go ahead and write it and just send it afterward. That’s what I did with all the gifts we received before the wedding.

    Post # 13
    Member
    494 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    We waited until after the wedding and after our at home reception which is this weekend.  Postage can get expensive and we want to send thank you notes for people who attended our small DW wedding, for gifts, and for coming to the at home reception.  Plus we want to send wedding picture thank you notes, so we need to wait to get them back from our photographer anyway!

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