Post # 1
I am getiing my RSVPs back and some have checks in them.
Do I give them thank you notes right away?
Fiance says he doesn’t want to cash the checks until we have thank you notes to send but he also says that people might want the checks cashed right away.
I was planning on having our pictures taken at the wedding with some kind of Thank You prop but would that be too late for the checks I’m receiving now?
Post # 3
Definately cash them, people balance their check books.
As for Thank you notes, if they were really early wedding gifts (like over a month early) i sent a generic Thank you card otherwise I waited for my photo cards post wedding to send a than kyou card.
Post # 4
I agree with the PP, definitely go ahead & cash them. Nothing irritates me more than seeing $$ in my checking account that is not spendable. LoL.
I’d send a generic thank you, as some people get upset about a “Thank You” card sent too “late”. It doesn’t matter to me, because I realize that a lot of people like to put a wedding photo on their Thank You cards. I feel like if someone sends a gift early, they should expect to wait for a Thank You card because obviously the bride & groom are still busy with wedding plans… and may be waiting till after the wedding to send them out.
Post # 5
I agree with the PPs. You should cash them now and send a thank you note ASAP.
Post # 6
We had a few of those too. I bought a pack of 10 generic thank-you cards and sent the thank-you note before the wedding. But then I also sent those people the ‘official’ thank-you card with wedding photos. So if they sent the money early they received 2 thank-you notes.
Post # 7
@luvmyDwight: You should both cash the cheques and send the thank yous now.
Etiquette does not care about photo thank yous, only about thanking your guests in a prompt matter. It would be off putting to me to know that someone cashed my cheque, but then not have a thank you note coming for a few months.
It is also polite to cash the cheques promptly, as waiting can cause problems with peoples banking systems.
Post # 8
I agree with PP. I would cash the checks and send a little note letting them know that you received the checks and thanking them, and then send them an “official” thank you note when you have them.
Post # 9
I agree! Cash the check and send a note ASAP. That way they know you’ve received the gift.
Post # 10
People do like receiving photos as a memento of the wedding. If you get them in time that you have them on hand when you receive a gift, then it is perfectly polite, if a little informal, to use them for your thank-you notes. But never delay giving thanks in order to wait for the photo-cards. The gold standard of good manners is to send a thank-you note at once: preferably before you go to bed on the day you opened it.
You can always send the photo-cards later, as well, just as a memento with a “thinking of you” kind of note on them.
Post # 11
Thank you Bee’s Everything you all said makes perfect sence. I would want the same.