(Closed) Thank you notes for money in RSVPs now?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey bee

Definately cash them, people balance their check books. 

As for Thank you notes, if they were really early wedding gifts (like over a month early) i sent a generic Thank you card otherwise I waited for my photo cards post wedding to send a than kyou card.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I agree with the PP, definitely go ahead & cash them.  Nothing irritates me more than seeing $$ in my checking account that is not spendable. LoL. 

I’d send a generic thank you, as some people get upset about a “Thank You” card sent too “late”.  It doesn’t matter to me, because I realize that a lot of people like to put a wedding photo on their Thank You cards.  I feel like if someone sends a gift early, they should expect to wait for a Thank You card because obviously the bride & groom are still busy with wedding plans… and may be waiting till after the wedding to send them out.

Post # 5
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3175 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I agree with the PPs. You should cash them now and send a thank you note ASAP. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We had a few of those too. I bought a pack of 10 generic thank-you cards and sent the thank-you note before the wedding. But then I also sent those people the ‘official’ thank-you card with wedding photos. So if they sent the money early they received 2 thank-you notes.

Post # 7
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3265 posts
Sugar bee

@luvmyDwight:  You should both cash the cheques and send the thank yous now. 

Etiquette does not care about photo thank yous, only about thanking your guests in a prompt matter.  It would be off putting to me to know that someone cashed my cheque, but then not have a thank you note coming for a few months.

It is also polite to cash the cheques promptly, as waiting can cause problems with peoples banking systems.

 

 

Post # 8
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282 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I agree with PP. I would cash the checks and send a little note letting them know that you received the checks and thanking them, and then send them an “official” thank you note when you have them.

Post # 9
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218 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I agree! Cash the check and send a note ASAP. That way they know you’ve received the gift.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

People do like receiving photos as a memento of the wedding. If you get them in time that you have them on hand when you receive a gift, then it is perfectly polite, if a little informal, to use them for your thank-you notes. But never delay giving thanks in order to wait for the photo-cards. The gold standard of good manners is to send a thank-you note at once: preferably before you go to bed on the day you opened it.

You can always send the photo-cards later, as well, just as a memento with a “thinking of you” kind of note on them.

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