Post # 1
OK, I have a feeling what everyone is going to say, but I’m wondering if maybe this is one of those regional things.
Out of the past 5 weddings I’ve gone to, two I didn’t receive thanks you’s for at all, one I received a traditional written thank you and two of the thank you’s were just generic photo thank you cards. But just flat cards, with no personal message, rather a generic message of thanks “Thank you so much for helping us celebrate our special day and for your generous gift.” (Kind of like a photo christmas card)
I’m wondering if personalized thank you’s are becoming a thing of the past. I certainly understand the use of photo cards, it would make the whole process SO much easier. My Fiance and I also both have terrible handwriting, so we’d have to figure out how to do some sort of printed message on each one anyway.
Personally, I also liked getting a wedding photo of the couple, its a nice touch. And I much prefer getting a generic thank you, to none at all.
BUT….I do understand that it is correct “etiquette” to write out a personal messge to each guest. I’m just not sure, to be honest, if I take on writing personalized messages to everyone, if I would end of being one of those brides that never gets out all of her thank you’s.
I just want to hear what people think. Maybe personalized thank yous are becoming a thing of the past, or maybe its a Philly thing?
Post # 3
I’m from Philly. I wrote every single guest a personal thank you note (with a picture of us on front!) I think thank you notes are very important.
Post # 4
I think it’s going to be a while before they’re passe.
But then again, technically, my thank-yous are “generic” in the sense that even though I hand-write every one and am specific about the gift, about 75% of the verbiage is recycled. We even have a few typed-up “boiler plate” thank yous that we keep next to the stationery–especially good for Darling Husband who hates thank-you notes and can never think of what to write.
Post # 5
I think you can do both. I have seen that alot. Send out photo cards with a handwritten thank you. I think personal notes are nice and show that the bride and groom really appreciated the gift you gave them and that you shared in their day.
Post # 6
Etiquette really isn’t “regional.” Just because something has become commonplace doesn’t mean its not rude or vulgar and that goes in spades for pre-printed thank you cards – incredibly rude and ungrateful.
Post # 7
I think it comes down to logistics. Was it a 350 person wedding? Then maybe postcards would be better. If it’s 60, that really means only 35 to send out and Thank You notes should be easy.
I think even if you just grabbed a pen and wrote “thanks for comming it was wonderful to see you, love X and Y” it’s a nice personal touch on post cards it could be a happy inbetween. It’s exactly that, a thank you note, not a thank you letter.
Post # 8
I lived in Philadelphia my entire life and always have received hand written thank-you notes. I’m sorry you didn’t receive personalized thank you notes in the past, but in my opinion you would be remiss not to do so.
Post # 9
you must have a handwritten note on every card. period.
Post # 10
My husband and I did a combination of these two things – a photo card that had a blank space on the side where we wrote individual messages. They weren’t pre-printed messages, but messages we wrote – they were short and sweet, but at least they were personal? I dunno, I wouldn’t have been comfortable sending a note with pre-printed text…
Post # 11
No matter how you spin it (and I’m including wedding size here – don’t invite 350 people if you aren’t prepared to write the thank you notes) – generic thank you notes are rude and tacky.
I’m pretty sure I’d be more peeved to receive a generic thank you than no thank you at all if I’m being entirely honest.
You can still do photo thank you cards and write a personalized note inside of them. That’s what we did!
Post # 12
I’m in the process of handwriting our thank you cards for our wedding. I started last night and will do 10 a night until they’re done. People will appreciate it more…I know I would.
Post # 13
If you give a generic gift, yes, a generic thank you is fine. But i wouldn’t send out pre-printed cards. I just wouldn’t write a lot…pre-printed cards ONLY are just yuck.
But i don’t think a thank you EVER goes out of style. I think people are just getting lazy
Post # 14
I’ll be including a picture in some but will be writing out personal thank you notes. In the past few years I’ve received no thank you but the one wedding I did receive a thank you, I kept it. It was personalized and she really thought it out. I thought it was so special I kept it so I could mimic that kind of note to our guests. I want them to feel like I did. Let’s not get lazy!
We did a honeymoon registry and if any guests buy off it for cruise excursions I will include a picture of us on the excursion for them. I thought it would be a nice surprise.
Post # 15
Ok- thanks for the opinions bees! Thats pretty much what I thought everyone would say. We are going to stick with the traditional written notes!
Post # 16
I wrote out personalized notes for each on a photo card. I still kind of think it’s the least you can do, to take a minute to write something specific for each guest.