(Closed) Thank You Notes- Generic Thank You’s VS. Personalized Notes.

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Are generic Thank You photo cards acceptable?

    No, don't do it! Thank you cards must be painstakingly written out individually.

    Photocards are fine!

    If you've received a few, maybe its acceptable in your area.

  • Post # 3
    1882 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I’m from Philly. I wrote every single guest a personal thank you note (with a picture of us on front!) I think thank you notes are very important.

    Post # 4
    1870 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I think it’s going to be a while before they’re passe.

    But then again, technically, my thank-yous are “generic” in the sense that even though I hand-write every one and am specific about the gift, about 75% of the verbiage is recycled. We even have a few typed-up “boiler plate” thank yous that we keep next to the stationery–especially good for DH who hates thank-you notes and can never think of what to write.

    Post # 5
    202 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I think you can do both. I have seen that alot. Send out photo cards with a handwritten thank you. I think personal notes are nice and show that the bride and groom really appreciated the gift you gave them and that you shared in their day.

    Post # 6
    714 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Etiquette really isn’t “regional.”  Just because something has become commonplace doesn’t mean its not rude or vulgar and that goes in spades for pre-printed thank you cards – incredibly rude and ungrateful. 

    Post # 7
    2 posts
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I think it comes down to logistics. Was it a 350 person wedding? Then maybe postcards would be better. If it’s 60, that really means only 35 to send out and Thank You notes should be easy.

    I think even if you just grabbed a pen and wrote “thanks for comming it was wonderful to see you, love X and Y” it’s a nice personal touch on post cards it could be a happy inbetween. It’s exactly that, a thank you note, not a thank you letter.

    Post # 8
    2788 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I lived in Philadelphia my entire life and always have received hand written thank-you notes.  I’m sorry you didn’t receive personalized thank you notes in the past, but in my opinion you would be remiss not to do so. 

    Post # 9
    4136 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    you must have a handwritten note on every card. period. 

    Post # 10
    3620 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    My husband and I did a combination of these two things – a photo card that had a blank space on the side where we wrote individual messages. They weren’t pre-printed messages, but messages we wrote – they were short and sweet, but at least they were personal? I dunno, I wouldn’t have been comfortable sending a note with pre-printed text…

    Post # 11
    13094 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    No matter how you spin it (and I’m including wedding size here – don’t invite 350 people if you aren’t prepared to write the thank you notes) – generic thank you notes are rude and tacky.

    I’m pretty sure I’d be more peeved to receive a generic thank you than no thank you at all if I’m being entirely honest.

    You can still do photo thank you cards and write a personalized note inside of them.  That’s what we did!

    Post # 12
    3575 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I’m in the process of handwriting our thank you cards for our wedding.  I started last night and will do 10 a night until they’re done.  People will appreciate it more…I know I would.

    Post # 13
    14181 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    If you give a generic gift, yes, a generic thank you is fine. But i wouldn’t send out pre-printed cards. I just wouldn’t write a lot…pre-printed cards ONLY are just yuck.

    But i don’t think a thank you EVER goes out of style. I think people are just getting lazy

    Post # 14
    1269 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I’ll be including a picture in some but will be writing out personal thank you notes.  In the past few years I’ve received no thank you but the one wedding I did receive a thank you, I kept it.  It was personalized and she really thought it out.  I thought it was so special I kept it so I could mimic that kind of note to our guests.  I want them to feel like I did.  Let’s not get lazy!

    We did a honeymoon registry and if any guests buy off it for cruise excursions I will include a picture of us on the excursion for them.  I thought it would be a nice surprise.

    Post # 16
    9050 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I wrote out personalized notes for each on a photo card.  I still kind of think it’s the least you can do, to take a minute to write something specific for each guest.

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