(Closed) thank you notes

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
16 posts
Newbee

Bridal shower gifts qualify as wedding gifts and etiquette states you have one year from the date of your marriage to mail out Thank Yous.

As a modern rule of thumb since bridal showers typically happen before the wedding, it is appropriate to send the Thank Yous for those particular gifts before the wedding.

Cheers for many years!

The Occasionista

Post # 5
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35 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I did mine the following week. 24 shower/e-giftcards and 11 e-gift cards. The way I see it, I don’t want to have to have MORE thank you cards after the wedding.

Post # 6
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1 posts
Wannabee

I believe it’s best to send thank you notes as soon as you have time.  Waiting too long just makes it harder to do, and also makes you appear less grateful to the people who took time and money to shower you with gifts.  As a guest, I love to get thank you notes in the mail, especially when the memory of the event is still fresh in my mind.  You should also send a thank you note for each gift you receive (engagement, shower, wedding, etc.).    I highly recommend the book "The Bride’s Thank You Guide" by Pamela A. Piljac to help you with writer’s block.  She has a lot of sample notes in the book that are very helpful when you have a lot to write.

Post # 7
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2324 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

You should send the thank you note as soon as you can. People use the excuse of one year, but you should really get them out asap. It’s a total myth that you have a year to write thank you notes. You are supposed to write a note as soon as you receive it, but you have up to 3 months, not a year. With our wedding, we wrote all the thank you notes before we used the gift. That was our rule and it helped get me writing!

Post # 8
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90 posts
Worker bee

Once I gave a baby blanket as a gift for my cousin who had a baby…..I got the thank you almost a year later and I thought it was ridiculous.  I wasn’t bothered by not getting it at all, but getting it almost a year later was like a slap in the face.  I would feel the same way about a wedding gift thank you.  Send it as soon as you can…..two months is plenty of time.  Anything after that is getting a little tacky.

Post # 9
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16 posts
Newbee

Wow I majorly typoed…my sentence was intended to say:

Bridal shower gifts qualify as wedding gifts and etiquette states you do not have one year from the date of your marriage to mail out Thank Yous.

As a modern rule of thumb since bridal showers typically happen before the wedding, it is appropriate to send the Thank Yous for those particular gifts before the wedding.

My apologies for such an egrecious oversight. 

Post # 10
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13 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2008

So, if you receive a wedding gift prior to the wedding, when do you send that thank you out?  For me, as soon as possible would be before the wedding.  I’d much rather do sooner rather than later.  Ah, etiquette!  Thanks for any pointers!

Post # 11
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2292 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

We sent quite a few (about two dozen) wedding gift thank you notes before the wedding.  The week of the wedding we were pretty busy, so any gifts that arrived that week got their thank you notes written after the wedding.  And we were really glad to have two dozen fewer to do after!! Just do them as soon as you can, as it is much easier, and your guests will be much happier with you.

Post # 12
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65 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

Send them out asap and definitely before the wedding!  Things will get busy the month before the wedding and you definitely don’t want to put off the shower thank you cards until after the wedding.  Same for early wedding gifts you receive before the wedding. 

Post # 13
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508 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

If you can make time, send out thank yous as soon after receipt of the gift as possible.  It makes the post-wedding thank you pile a little smaller and also lets the person sending the gift know it arrived safely. 

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