(Closed) Thank You Question

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
735 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

You do not need to thank guests for attending a party.  (The guest was the one who was entertained, and should be thanking the hostess.)

You should be polite and be happy to see all of the guests who attend a party thrown in your honor, but sending a thank you for the pleasure of their company isn’t proper.  (In fact, some people interpret a “thanks for coming!’ note as a lightly hidden question “…but where’s my gift?”)

Post # 4
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

@TheFutureMrsR:  IMO a Bride can never do TOO MUCH in the way of saying thanks. 

Certainly Thank You Cards are a MUST DO for all Gifts received, be they Boxed, Cash or In-Kind (ie someone hosting an event for you).

Example… Thank You for the lovely silver picture frame for our Engagement… we look forward to showing it off in our new home.

So YES, sending out Thank You cards for the Engagement Gifts was important…

I see where UmbrellaMoon  is coming from with their comments (indeed the Guest can thank the Host(s) for inviting them to such a great party) … BUT you as the Bride, can also thank the Guests individually because they came as a “gift” to share in the celebrations with you (Bridal events for the Bride & Groom, SHOULD NOT be hosted by the B&G… except for perhaps the Wedding / Reception itself… more of a modern tradition)

So YES, you can of course also send Thank You Cards to those who come out to your Engagement Party (Dear __ Thank You for being there with us to celebrate at our recent Engagement Party) … and if they were folks who sent gifts (before the party or at it)… then you could if you like again refer to the gift given… (thanks again for the lovely silver picture frame for our Engagement, we’ve decided to have one the pics from our E-Party enlarged to go into it) etc

NOTE – Thank Yous can be written by either the Bride or Groom, but should clearly indicate that the gift is appreciated by both (either by using us, we, or __ and I, or a mention of the other by name)

Hope this helps,


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