(Closed) Thank You Speech – Strained Parental Relationship

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
4336 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Do you absolutely have to have a thank-you speech? (We didn’t have any…just a short note in the program!) I agree, that however he does it, it might be pretty awkward.

Post # 4
97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

bump, im doing this right now as well and although i have many fabulous things to say about my mom cause shes been there for the past ten years while my dad was in another province i have not much to say about my dad, i pulled things from my childhood though and traits that i’ve inherited from him and are thankful for like an amazing sense of direction and stuff like that. its hard though, just thank him forsharing the day and being there and maybe try and find a couple little stories or annecdotes. its really all you can do.

Post # 5
27 posts
  • Wedding: July 2012

That’s a tough situation.  While no one wants their parents to be hurt, reality is reality. His mother does deserve to be thanked if he feels she was a great mom and if his dad is jealous of that relationship, maybe he should have been there more often.  It’s not like he’s going to say “you suck dad” he just wouldn’t have as many touching things to say and I think that’s fine.  If I were him, I would either make the “touching” part of my thank you to my dad be about how I am so glad the relationship has improved and how I look forward to it getting even better.  If he still doesn’t think that’s “touching” enough, a compromise might be to write most of the touching stuff to his mom in a letter with a thank you gift instead of publicly proclaiming it.  That way his mom would know how he felt and would even have it on paper to reread but his dad wouldn’t feel bad or embarrased. 


Post # 6
1297 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Instead of speeches, could he give the speech to his mom privately as a letter? Speeches to the parents aren’t common in my area and wouldn’t be missed, but perhaps it is different where you are from.


Post # 7
2401 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’ve never heard of a speech to parents or relatives before other than a simple “thanks for all the love and support” note at the very end. I would go with the PP advice and have him write a letter. It could be a very touching moment between the two.

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