Post # 1
Bees, I’m getting married soon and need some last minute advice for my Fiance. We are writing our thank you speeches. He is doing fine with writing the one for his mom, who raised him.
However, he is stuck on what to write for his dad/stepmom, the reason being that he has somewhat of a strained relationship with his father. He wasn’t around while Fiance was growing up and they only recently came to know each other, in the last 7 or so years. Fiance has never truly felt like a part of their family. We live quite far away from them and Fiance sees them maybe once or twice a year, which doesn’t help the situation.
My question is this. His speech to his mom is very touching and sweet but he is concerned his dad’s will fall flat as he just doesn’t know what to write when they are not at all close/he feels awkward with them. Anyone ever run into this situation? How did you word your speech?
Post # 3
Do you absolutely have to have a thank-you speech? (We didn’t have any…just a short note in the program!) I agree, that however he does it, it might be pretty awkward.
Post # 4
bump, im doing this right now as well and although i have many fabulous things to say about my mom cause shes been there for the past ten years while my dad was in another province i have not much to say about my dad, i pulled things from my childhood though and traits that i’ve inherited from him and are thankful for like an amazing sense of direction and stuff like that. its hard though, just thank him forsharing the day and being there and maybe try and find a couple little stories or annecdotes. its really all you can do.
Post # 5
That’s a tough situation. While no one wants their parents to be hurt, reality is reality. His mother does deserve to be thanked if he feels she was a great mom and if his dad is jealous of that relationship, maybe he should have been there more often. It’s not like he’s going to say “you suck dad” he just wouldn’t have as many touching things to say and I think that’s fine. If I were him, I would either make the “touching” part of my thank you to my dad be about how I am so glad the relationship has improved and how I look forward to it getting even better. If he still doesn’t think that’s “touching” enough, a compromise might be to write most of the touching stuff to his mom in a letter with a thank you gift instead of publicly proclaiming it. That way his mom would know how he felt and would even have it on paper to reread but his dad wouldn’t feel bad or embarrased.
Post # 6
Instead of speeches, could he give the speech to his mom privately as a letter? Speeches to the parents aren’t common in my area and wouldn’t be missed, but perhaps it is different where you are from.
Post # 7
I’ve never heard of a speech to parents or relatives before other than a simple “thanks for all the love and support” note at the very end. I would go with the PP advice and have him write a letter. It could be a very touching moment between the two.