(Closed) Thank you to people in THE WEDDING PARTY That did not give a gift?!!?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Yes definately still send them a thank you. My thank you to my BMs who did give a gift was mostly about them being my friend and supporting me, etc. It was secondarily about the gift. 

 

Post # 4
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8369 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

We sent everyone who attended our wedding a thank you- gift or not!

I think it is polite to thank people who come and help yo celebrate- especially if the are in the wedding party and have spent a lot of their own money on your wedding!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I am no etiquette expert, but no I don’t think that’s normal at all! I would be miffed. However, I would still send them a thank you for everything they did anyway. Maybe they are having financial problems, and being in a wedding can be expensive…

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

Thank them for being in the wedding party.  Even though they didn’t get you a gift, they still had to shell out money for their attire, hotel, etc and they gave up a weekend for you and your Darling Husband.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I don’t think it’s uncommon. People spend a lot of money to be in weddings, and gifts on top of that are expensive! I wouldn’t expect a gift from anyone in the wedding party, and i’d feel bad if they gifted something in addition to all the traditional expenses they incur. So, definitely thank them for being part of your big day. In 5 years, you probably won’t remember who gave you what for your wedding, but you’ll remember who was standing up there next to you.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I would definitely say send a thank you anyway.  As a PP said, maybe they were having a financial issue or something…you never know!  Even just a thanks for being in my bridal party or thanks for coming or something.  Smile

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If they paid for dress, hair, shoes, makeup, then absolutely yes! With them paying all that, I would say a gift is optional.

Post # 10
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2009 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Seriously? Yes send a thank you.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

With all the personal expenses of being in the wedding party, that’s enough for me. I’d thank them, and cut slack for not gifting me anything. Their presence on my wedding day is gift enough.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

For me, as a bridesmaid, we spent a crap ton of money to throw an elaborate bacherloette in Bahamas, and an equally elaborate bridal shower. I did not give her a bridal shower gift and I know she totally understands.

For my wedding, I hear that mine will be pretty cray cray too and I don’t expect a gift at all. And even if they don’t give me a huge elaborate bachelorette or bridal shower, I will not be miffed because their effort is all that matters. I would DEFINITELY send them a thank you note for all their hard work, money and effort and time that they put into making my wedding amazing.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

OP would you seriously consider not thanking the people who stood by your side that day just because they didn’t give you a material gift?

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We’re specifically asking our bridal party NOT to give gifts on top of the money they’re spending and time they’re taking to take part in our wedding.

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