Post # 1
My great aunt and her daughter went in together to get us a beautiful tea set for our wedding last August. Her daughter made it to the wedding, but she did not. My great aunt just passed away. We haven’t sent our thank you notes out yet. Should I send her daughter a note thanking her and her mom both? Should I just send her one thanking only her (they technically sent separate cards)? I just don’t want to upset anyone…would love some opinions. Thanks!
Post # 3
I would definitely mention her mother to her – thanking them both for the beautiful gift.
Post # 4
I would send one card to the daughter and mention how you love the tea set and how thoughtful it was of her and her mother.
Post # 5
If I was receiving the card, I might not want her mentioned just because I’m sure grieving is so hard. But at the same time, I might have found it odd if she wasn’t. Tough one!
Post # 6
Definitely thank the daughter and mention the mom. Research has shown that one of the things people find the most difficult to deal with after a loved one has died, is that people don’t mention them for fear of upsetting someone. Talk about her. Tell the daughter how much your aunt meant to you. Share a precious memory. It will be so much more meaningful.
Post # 7
Agreed. Thank the daughter, and mention her mom. Also… send a condelence card (separately) if you haven’t.