(Closed) "Thank You" Vent!

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
2832 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Sadly there are a lot of people like that.

I hosted a baby shower for a friend who get pregnant after a few months of dating this guy. Totally unexpected. I didn’t get a gift, or card. Some people just don’t think it’s important or think about it at all.

Just because other people didn’t do something that you would have done doesn’t mean you should get pissed off.

Post # 4
Member
3057 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

@missjewels:  I know you have a year or whatever to send thank you cards, but to me, no one who actually sends thank you cards is going to wait an entire year to do so. Some people weren’t brought up with them I guess. I was forced to write them after every single gift I received as a child & I could not be more grateful that my mom raised me that way. There’s not really anything you can do though so hopefully this vent helped you feel better so you can move past it =)

Post # 5
Member
199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

To add to this note:

I am annoyed by people who have those wedding picture thank yous and don’t write anything personal on them. Like they couldn’t take the time to say a generic something in their own hand writing!

Post # 6
Member
128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@missjewels:  You are totally right in your frustration. First off all, you don’t have a year to send thank you cards. This is always misconstrued because etiquette says you have up to a year after the wedding to send a gift. Thank you notes should always be sent out as soon as possible – 3 months at the latest unless you have some particularly unusual circumstances. You wouldn’t wait a year to send a thank you note for anything else, so you certainly shouldn’t start with your wedding. I’m not ranting at you, it just drives me crazy that this myth is perpetuated all over these boards. Send your thank you notes as soon as you can ladies!

Now, as far as the friends, I agree with pps, some people just don’t know how to be gracious. That doesn’t make it right, but since they are family and friends, its probably best not to confront them about it, and just let it be and move past it. Besides, when you do thank them, they will probably (hopefully!) be reminded that they did not give proper thanks and maybe try to do better in the future.

Post # 7
Member
4417 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I would prefer to see people send out thank you notes within three months.  A year is too long.

I also don’t care whether I get a picture from the wedding or not, so delaying them to include a picture that I’ll probably throw away eventually kind of annoys me. I know, I know, it seems like a nice gesture to include a picture, but really…I’m not going to frame it or put it in a photo album or scrapbook unless I’m the MOB, MOG, the Grandma or the special Aunt to the bride or the groom.  

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