(Closed) Thank you wording to a BAD GUEST??

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee

I think what you have is perfect!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Yep, that’s what you say! You don’t owe him anything other than that. I’m so sorry that this happened to you. I sincerely hope that you were able to enjoy the majority of your day and are crazy happy with your new husband!

Post # 5
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Busy bee

Your Father = my Mother-In-Law.  My Darling Husband decided to use reverse psychology in her Thank You card.  It was full of pukable things like “It was wonderful to have you”, “Hope you had a great time”, “We enjoyed visiting with you”, etc.  I couldn’t get past the “It was wonderful to have you” because I was too busy throwing up in my mouth so I’m not sure what else he wrote. Did it work on her?  Probably not.

Of course I would have rather wrote “F You.  It would have been so much better without you.”

Maybe give yourself to let the wound heal so it isn’t so fresh?

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m so sorry he did that to you on your wedding day.  The wording you have for the thank you card is perfect.  Generic and to the point.

Really, though, I wanted to comment to commend you for being the bigger person for inviting him to the wedding in the first place and then sending him a thank you card.  You’re a good person!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I think what you wrote is perfect. I’m sorry things didn’t go as planned.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would duplicate the version of the card he gave you– just Thank you in the middle with your own signatures. Its exactly what he gave you so its exactly what he should get in return– and I sincerely hope you are insanely happy despite his man-hissy fit.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Sorry your dad acted like a turd at your wedding. I think what you wrote is perfect for a Thank You card. Short & thanks him for the card.

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper

That sucks.  I’m sorry you had to go through something like that – but it doesn’t seem like your dad’s behavior was all that surprising to you.  I completely understand not really being thankful, but your gut feeling is right.  Just a simple note of thanks makes you the polite person – unfortunately, you can’t change who your dad is – you can only be responsible for how you act around him and treat him.  

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@alohababy28: Personally, I wouldn’t send a thank you card. Or if I did anything, I’d just write “thanks” on a piece of paper and put it in the mail.

I am still trying to figure out if I will invite my mother, but reading your story has given me more to think about. I can see the same thing happening.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I know where you’re coming from on this! 

I think your wording is perfect, or, as someone suggested, just get a card that says thank you in the middle and sign it.

I’m currently deciding whether to invite my estranged father to the wedding. He’s not invited to the reception, no matter what, but I thought I might let him in the church. I know exactly how you feel, and how frustrating and upsetting it is. 

The best thing to do is just laugh it off, and recognise how it shows what a petty person he is, that he can’t be happy for you in your life. You’ve got your life together, don’t let him spoil it even a little bit.

We laugh a lot about how ridiculous my dad was at my brother’s wedding Wink

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

I am so sorry that your father did that on your wedding day. Every daughter deserves better than that (((hugs)))

Since he was so short with his card, I would keep it short with yours. What you have is good, and you are a better person about this than I would be, and kudos to you for your patience, class, and grace in this situation. I, being the fiesty girl I am, would probably simply write “Dad, Thank you for your time and gift. signed, sweetpea” but what you have is better.

Post # 15
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Busy bee

You are definitely right…you can look back and think/know YOU did the right thing.

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