(Closed) Thank you wording to a BAD GUEST??

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2344 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Honestly, I wouldn’t! I have a strained relationship with my dad too, and though I am thankful he didn’t pull anything like this, if he had, I wouldn’t even acknowledge the $25. But I’m not always a nice person.

Post # 4
2788 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Dear Mr. _____, (you can subsititue Dad if you want here, I wouldn’t)

Thank you for the generous gift certificate and card.  We will use it towards ______.

Thank you for thinking of us on our special day.


Mr. & Mrs. Alohababy

Post # 5
1585 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

OMG I am so sorry for you.  I also have a non-existant superficial relationship with my bio dad.  He had been avoiding me like the plague ever since I got engaged until last week when he called to have coffee.  (I think that he was avoiding me because he was afraid that I would ask for money.)  He actually had the audacity to ask me what his role was in MY wedding.  I told him that he is invited as a guest.  After 20 years of completely fucking up I think that his choices are finally catching up with him.

So his sisters (who I am closer with than him) and my cousin whom I adore are all invited.  Not sure if they are going to come but we will have to wait and see. I am afraid that he may cause a scene.  I am more worried about his wife who I despise!  It is because of her that I never had any relationship with my dad (my aunts admitted that when I got older)

So the point is I feel your pain… I would write a thank you not like this:

Dear Dad (thinks in head jerk)

Thank you for coming to our wedding and for the gift and card.  It was nice to see you.

Love, (I still write love to my dad because we have this totally fake superficial relationship)

Anyway I hope that this helps and just know that you are really strong for being as nice as you were.  I hope that I will keep the same cool on my wedding day.

Post # 6
1585 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I also like the we will use it towards ____________  Great space filler rachaelrobin!

Post # 7
2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I would write like a one-sentence thing. 

“Thank you for thinking us of. Love, _______”

Post # 8
2201 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

And if you have fantastic photographers, maybe see if they can edit him out of the pics that he ruined? No reason for you to be visually reminded of his a$$holery for the rest of your life.

Post # 9
2004 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I would write exactly what Ms. Caniche suggested. It acknowledges the gift and it’s not too formal sounding.

I’m sorry to hear about all this dad-related drama at your wedding. I hope you are able to get some peace about it after this.

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