(Closed) Thank You/Early Gifts

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1796 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Send a thank you now. The ideal way to do thank you notes is to mail them on the same day that you receive the gift. Sending an immediate thank you will also eliminate the awkward situation for the guest where they aren’t sure whether you received the gift safely or not.

Post # 4
4 posts
  • Wedding: April 2012

I definately agree! Sending thank yous as you receive the gifts also relieves my biggest fear— forgetting to send one! :-S As the gifter,  I would also feel more appreciated  and special because you went out of your way to send the note at the time you received the gift instead of being put on a list for notes after the wedding.

Post # 5
803 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I agree with PPs…immediate is the most stress-free way to go!  Also, just in case you don’t get to each one immediately make sure you keep track of whether you’ve sent a thank you note and what the gift was as soon as you send one/receive a gift in case you lose the card and can’t remember in a month who sent what or whether you sent a gift out.  I use google docs so that if anything happens to my computer, I don’t lose the info.

Post # 6
4192 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Send them out now- people *always* appreciate a prompt thank you!

Post # 7
250 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

We are waiting to send out the physical thank you’s until after the wedding for people who are able to make it, but sent out an email thank you to each one right away, so that the gift givers know that we received it, and we are appreciative.

Post # 8
13561 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I sent thank-you cards as gifts arrived, so many, many people received thank-yous before the wedding.

Post # 9
273 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I am sending out thank you’s as the gifts arrive.  My problem is that people who use the registry rarely send a seprate card – so some of the gifts have been joint gifts where I didn’t really know who all went in together.  Also, people weren’t entirely clear if it was a shower or a wedding gift…i’m just going in assuming everything is for the wedding.  

I may also send out a separate thank you card after the wedding depending on how things go.  I am in the camp of ‘you can never send out too many thank you notes’.  I realize not everyone is of the same philosophy. 

Post # 10
2616 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

i will be sending thank yous when the gift arrives,, they will get a special thank you for coming to the wedding( wedding photo card) afterwards.

Post # 11
1043 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Yep agree with PPs, I’d send the thank you cards now for two reasons: they will know you received the gift and it will lower the number of cards you have to send later.

I personally hate when I mail something, especially a gift card, and then don’t hear from the couple for months and months.  It seems rude to ask “Did you get that wedding gift I mailed you?”

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