Post # 1
At our at-home reception this weekend, we got two cards that I’m not sure how to go about sending thank you notes for.
The first was from my aunt who signed her name and also her two adult children’s names (by adult I mean one is almost 50 and the other is 47 and they do not live with their mother). There was a check enclosed as well. These cousins of mine were also at the reception and gave me their own gifts. One actually sent it to us before the party and I’ve already sent her the thank you note. So, my question is do I send all 3 of them a thank you card for their mother’s card and check? Or do I just leave it as already thanking the one? Or do I send her another one?
The other one is my other aunt. Same situation kind of as above. She also included her adult children’s names on the card and gave us a check. Now for this, only one of her kids came to our reception and did not give a gift, so I’m sure this was truly from her as well. But the other daughter, the one that didn’t come and didn’t even RSVP…do I send her a thank you card? I doubt she even knows her mother did this.
So, what do I do in these situations?
Post # 2
In the first situation, I would just thank the cousins for their gifts that they have individually. In the second situation, for the daughter that did not attend/rsvp, I would send a thank you note because she may have contributed to the gift, and even if she didn’t, her mother may have told her that she gave something to you or will ask her daughter whether a thank you note was sent to her. Better safe than sorry imo when it comes to your aunt.
Post # 3
- Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club
I would send one card for the one check in both situations. Since it was one gift signed by more than one person, I would address the card to all of the names listed. Mail to the mother and on the card put “Dear Aunt Mary, Jane, and Bob, …..”
Post # 4
for situation one, I would send a thank you to your aunt, and separate ones to your cousins. In the cousins card I would write, “thank you for the gift (individual one) and the generous check from you and your mom and siblings…
this you are thanking her and if she didn’t know her mom signed her name to the check, she will now.
situation 2, I’d send thank you to each cousin and aunt. As she may have contributed w her mom knowing she couldn’t make it.