Post # 1
So today (Nov. 16) I just had my first bridal shower even though I’m not getting married until February 28. I was under the impression that within a month of the bridal shower that I am supposed to write thank-you cards. My fiance is telling me that I’m supposed to wait unitl after the wedding to do this.
I’m confused…a little help here?
Post # 3
My friend (who was under the advisement of an expert wedding planner) wrote the thank-yous right after the shower. Actually, the host of the shower passed around a basket of envelopes and had each of us address ours so that all she had to to was write the notes!
My advice: get on those thank-yous pronto. I actually wrote a post the other day recounting my thank-you note fiasco from our engagement party and…well…just trust me, it’s better to write them now.
Post # 4
Just think of it this way: No one ever got upset by being thanked too many times! I’d play it safe.
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2018 - Oakland Manor
I believe you send thank you notes for the gifts received at the bridal shower, and send thank you notes again for the gift received after the wedding. I agree wiht HistoryBride, its best to play it safe.
Post # 6
I can now go back to my fiance and say something that I knew I should have said all along "I was right"
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2018 - The Desmond Hotel in Malvern, PA
Yes yes, definitely write Thank You notes for shower gifts now! Your fiance might be confused with the "rule" that you’re supposed to wait to USE shower gifts until after the wedding…. but you need to thank people for them right away 🙂 (Although we cheated and used some of our gifts before our wedding! We knew there was no chance the wedding wasn’t going to happen 🙂
Post # 8
Ha! I just got home tonight and have already used some.
Oh well 🙂
Post # 9
As long as you’re pretty sure the wedding is happening, I don’t think it hurts to use the shower gifts before the wedding. The one hard and fast rule that we had was: We didn’t use anything before we had sent the thank you note! That made us get them written faster than we might have otherwise. (Actually a couple of weeks before the wedding I made a new rule that we couldn’t OPEN any more presents until we caught up on the thank you notes – that worked beautifully.)
Post # 10
I am so glad I read this post! I had no idea you weren’t supposed to use the gifts till after the wedding. It makes sense though I don’t know if we will do that! 🙂
I like Suzanno’s idea!