(Closed) Thank yous: Is he supposed to also sign?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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578 posts
Busy bee

Well, I am not married yet so I havn’t had to deal with it yet, but I think it would be perfectly fine to sign both of your names 🙂

or if you took his name you could sign it “the lastnames”

Post # 4
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5958 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Awesome thing about being married # 224 – You can sign Mr. & Mrs. loohoo….blam!

Post # 5
Hostess
11167 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

Ideally, sure. I don’t know many husbands (including my own) that would sit down and sign all the cards. I had to sign for the both of us and not one person has questioned it.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I signed for both of us.

Post # 7
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2559 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My husband and I both signed all the thank you cards, and split up writing the actual message (he thanked his family, I thanked mine, and I handled most mutual friends). I think if guests took all time out of their lives to celebrate your marriage, the guys can take 10 minutes out of theirs and sign thank-you cards. However, I think the PPs are technically right in that you can sign for both if you want.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If I could get my Darling Husband anywhere near the Thank You notes, I would make him sign them. However, he won’t even touch them with a 10 ft pole, so I’m signing them with my first name + his first name.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Depended on who the card was for. My family friends who met him that night- I signed for both of us. Mutual friends-we both signed. His friends/close families- HE wrote those cards.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Don’t mean to thread jack-but to those of you that your husband wrote the entire Thank You card, does he have good handwriting? JW bc my fiancé wouldn’t mind writing them but I really wonder if people would be annoyed since his handwriting is…..well, “less than perfect”

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

Just an FYI for those who haven’t done thank yous yet but intend Darling Husband to help, traditionally when both people write, you write to each other’s family and guests, not your own. It’s a mark of the integration of the two families and social circles. This is not an etiquette issue, though, so if you feel strongly about writing to your family and him writing to his, NBD.

Post # 13
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130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m making him sign them for himelf. Our plan is to write the cards as we open everything, so we will both be there. I’m not doing it all myself for the both of us.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@OtterHalf:  I wouldn’t say my DH’s handwriting is beautiful or anything, but it’s certainly legible… Pretty sure no one minded figuring it out lol

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

i usually just sign all cards (including thank yous for engagement gifts we got) for him. You better believe after the wedding he will be getting 1/2 those thank yous to do himself though! 😉

Post # 16
Hostess
1427 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We both signed… since now technically we are a “unit” so we thanked all of our guests as a unit.

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