Post # 1
We had quite a few grown cousins at the wedding who were included on their parent’s cards. Of course, in this case it would be appropriate for us to send them individual thank you cards, as they are adults. Do we thank them for the gift their parents gave to us (money), or should we only thank them for coming?
Post # 3
I would imagine you would address a single thank-you to the people listed on the card. So if they all were listed on a card for a single present, then send one thank you to those people. If they were listed by themselves on a separate gift, then they would get thanked separately for that.
I’m not an etiquette expert, but that’s what I would do.
Post # 4
@running late: If they live at home with their parents, then I would send one thank you to the family.
If they live on their own and were included in the group gift, I would send them a separate thank you, thanking them for the gift and attending.
Post # 5
i didn’t send a thank you individually to the grown children, just to the parents and listed all the people included on the card. i’ve rarely gotten individual thank you’s from couples who my parents’ gave joint gifts to, so i think that’s standard, at least for my extended family and friend network…