(Closed) Thank You’s…too late?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is it too late to send Thank you cards?
    It's too late; Just forget about it. : (2 votes)
    2 %
    Better late than never. : (90 votes)
    98 %
  • Post # 3
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    382 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    They say technically you have a year. And though I know I got annoyed when I hadn’t gotten a thank you note from someone after 6 months, when I did finally get it, it was a slight relief that they did at least care a little.

    Definitely still send them.

    Post # 4
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    8738 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @scottsouth:  The one year thing is for sending gifts after the wedding (not sending thank you notes, although that is a common misconception).

     

    @ReadyAsICanBe:  Send them now. Make sure every one is personalized to the recipient and what they gave you. People may be a bit miffed they are so late, but if they are highly personalized I’m sure they will be appreciated.

    Post # 5
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    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Technically you have a year. I’d still send them so that your guests atleast know that you got their gifts. 

    Post # 6
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    5296 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1993

    Better late than never! 

    Post # 7
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    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @KatNYC2011:  I didn’t know that, lol. Learn something new every day!

    Post # 9
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    382 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    @KatNYC2011:  If they as guests have a year to send gifts, why should we as the couple not also have at least that long for a thank you note? Etiquette rules are confusing sometimes.

    Post # 10
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    2104 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Yes! Send them! Your guests will appreciate it! They all understand that while it’s not ideal, life does happen. You want them to know you are greatful!

    Post # 11
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    1052 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Cedar Lake Cellars

    Yes, yes, yes.  Better late than never.  I’m one of those people who can remember every wedding I’ve bene to where I didn’t receive a thank you card. 

    I want to know that they got the gift rather than it being stolen off the table or something.  And, i think it’s just polite.  Write a personal card to each person and I bet they’ll be so thankful that they don’t even realize how long it has been.

    Post # 12
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    8738 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @scottsouth:  I think it has to do with the general rule of thank you notes. Notes should be written and sent as soon after the gift is received as possible. Ideal situations would have the thank you note sent the same day as the gift is opened.

    Obviously that is not feasible, but the sooner the better according to Emily Post and other “etiquette gurus”.

    Post # 13
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    5787 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    @scottsouth:  Because thank you notes just aren’t that time consuming. Sure, if the gift comes a year later that thank you note goes out later.

    Better late than never. Make sure you handwrite something very thoughtful in each note.

    Post # 14
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    9672 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @KatNYC2011:  You’re right about the having up to a year to send a GIFT, not thank you notes, lol.  I messed up on another thread about this very topic.  Oops! 

    But, still, I like getting thank you notes for giving a gift anytime, even if it was given quite awhile back, because it is nice to know the bride was just busy, not that she didn’t appreciate/receive the gift.  It is much better than never receiving a thank you at all.  OP, I’m sure your notes will be appreciated a lot!

    Post # 15
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    505 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I think you should still send them out.  Never late then never.

    Post # 16
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    90 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I went to a wedding over a year ago and haven’t gotten a thank you note.  I’d still appreciate getting one, so I definitely agree with “better late than never!” 

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