Post # 1
So I’m pretty much finished up with our thank-you’s (it took a bit longer than I would have liked due to some hardships at the beginning of our marriage.. fun!) We have a group of family members on FIs side who went in on a large, generous gift at our shower. They specified that this was both a shower and wedding gift. Now, these are the same people who have been telling me how much they expect thank-you notes after the wedding and I’d better write them or else. My question is, do I need to thank them for this gift again? Of course, I thanked them after our shower via notes. I just feel weird thanking them again for the same gift but also feel odd not mentioning the gift since they’ve made such a big deal of it all along… Thoughts?
Post # 3
@sunnyde: I wouldn’t write them another card. That’s a bit absurd that they would demand one.
Post # 4
“You already have our thanks for the wonderful _____, but we wanted you to know not only how much we appreciate the gift but also you attending the wedding and sharing our day.”
Post # 5
@julies1949: +1000 for brilliance
No need to upset people who seem like they would DELIGHT in being offended!
Post # 6
I think a note re-acknowledging the shower gift and thanking them for attending the wedding is perfectly acceptable. And that way, there is no way they can fault you for not sending a “thanks for coming to the celebration” note.
Post # 7
@julies1949: Thanks so much! That sounds perfect. You certainly are more eloquent than I am!
Yeah, I can’t wait to have this last little piece of the wedding finished so then people can move onto a different person to be offended by (one can only hope, at least 🙂
Post # 8
I love that wording!! Super smart!
Post # 9
@sunnyde: I would thank them for attending and let them know how much you’re enjoying gift ‘x’ or how it’s changed things for the two of you perhaps?