(Closed) Thanking Guests post wedding

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Who did you send thank yous to post wedding?

    Everyone that attended

    Those who gave gifts/cards

    Other, please explain!

  • Post # 4
    1919 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    As far as I know you only send thank you’s that gave gifts/cards. This may differ if you are having a Destination Wedding or something then you likely thank everyone who attended.

    Post # 5
    646 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Generally, I think you only give thank yous to those who gave a card/gift.  I did also send TY’s to those who traveled from far Out of Town though, since the majority of my family is Out of Town and not very well off, so it was a really big deal to me that they made sacrifices to come to our wedding.

    Post # 6
    47436 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    You do not need to send thank you notes to guests for attending your wedding.

    From Emily Post:

    “Who needs a note?

    • Anyone who gives you an engagement, shower or wedding gift, even if you have thanked them in person. Individual notes should be written to people who contributed to a group gift.
    • Anyone who gives a gift of money: cash, checks, contributions to savings accounts and donations to charities. Mentioning the amount is optional, but it does let the person know the correct amount was received. You should mention what you plan to do with the money.
    • Your attendants. A warm personal note attached to your gifts to your attendants will let them know how much you appreciate their efforts and support on your behalf.
    • Anyone who hosted a party or shower for you. Ideally these notes should be written within two days of the event. Each host or hostess should be thanked individually with a note and a thank you gift.
    • People who house or entertain your wedding guests. A note and a small gift should be sent to anyone who houses or entertains out-of-town wedding guests.
    • People who do kindnesses for you. The neighbor who accepts delivery of your gifts when you are at work; the cousin who supervises the parking at the reception – anyone who assists you before, during or after your wedding.
    • Suppliers and vendors. You don’t have to write everyone you hire for services, but anyone who exceeds your expectations will appreciate a courteous note of thanks.
    • Your parents or whoever is hosting your wedding. “


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