Post # 1
I am writing my speech as a bride and am hilighting a few special people in our lives that have been there for my fiance in the 5 years we have been togther. My parents and Mark’s mom are both a part of this special mention.
My finace’s dad had an affair and left the family when the 4 boys were between 9 and 16. I have met him once before but he has had no part of Marks life in the past 15 years other than an annual Bday phone call, which Mark doesn’t answer anymore. He is invited to our wedding with his now wife (the mistress) because Mark felt he should be. It’s going to be awkward enough, since this will be the 1st time these 3 will be in the same room (and the kicker is the 2 woman were great friends before the affair).
Anyways, Mark’s mom has contributed financially, emotionally and physical labour to the wedding. My parents as well. I do not know how to thank my parents for all there support, then Mark’s mom and make no mention of his Dad.
Please if anyone has been through this, I need help!
Post # 3
if his dad has no place in your FI’s life, then don’t mention him. what’s the worse that’ll happen? he’ll get offended? big deal, your Fiance doesn’t even take his calls anymore. talk with your Fiance and see if he has any concerns. the dad was invited, that’s more than enough.
Post # 4
I wouldnt mention him and not care about how he feels. My dad left my mom for her best friend too and plenty people know what happened so I’m guessing most people at your wedding knows the situation too? I dont think too many people would be shocked if you dont mention him, I’d be shocked if youdid lol both my dad and my honeys dad arent invited to our wedding
Post # 5
Ah, the joys of husband’s with deadbeat dads, I feel your pain. :/ Honestly, just don’t mention him. His side of the family will know what’s up and wouldn’t question the fact that you don’t thank him. Anyone else that doesn’t know the whole story would probably just assume that his father isn’t part of his life, which is true. No harm. I’m sure he probably isn’t expecting a mention.
Post # 6
I wouldn’t mention him, I don’t think I could invite him at least with the plus one. If he comes he knows what part he’s played. It would seem hypocritical to thank him.
Post # 7
i would not mention him at all.
Post # 8
Thanks for all the posts. I was surprised that they were invited in the first place but with 2 wonderful parents I can’t put myself in his shoes. I’ll have a conversation with Mark about it but yeah I think I’ll just leave him out. Mark’s Dad and wife are the only 2 from that side of the family invited so the rest is all his mom’s side and my family. I believe mostly everyone knows his dad isn’t a part of our life. This should be pleasantly awkward.