Post # 1
My co-workers threw me a great shower today, and I am feeling a little stressed about saying thanks and here’s why:
1) One specific co-worker did most of the leg-work and put it together for me. (I will thank her in a special way)
2) Everyone went in on one (really nice) gift for us.
3) Not everyone in our (small) office was present.
So how do I say thank you?
Since the gift was from everyone and not just those who came, do I write all 20 people in my office an individual thank you card?
Do I thank the office as a whole with one thank you card?
Do I send a small gift like flowers for everyone (which would probably sit in the reception area and be enjoyed by the admin, who wasn’t even there)?
or…is there something else I could(should) do for them to show my appreciation.
*I am only working 3 more days before my wedding vacation kicks in, and the wedding is in 9 days, so I’m feeling a little strapped for time.
Post # 3
Usually whoever chipped in on the gift is noted on a card, so I would write thank you notes (albeit very small thank you notes!) to each of these people. That’s what a woman in my office did for a baby shower we held, and it was very thoughtful.
Post # 4
Whenever we do something as a group, the recipient usually sends a nice mass email as a thank-you. Emily Post would probably die, but I think the single group card is awkward and the group gift unnecessary. I have also received an individual thank-you card from a recipient who wrote cards to everyone who pitched in for a gift, but I thought that was a little awkward too.
Post # 5
I would send a heartfelt group thank you email and a special handwritten one should go to the person who did all the legwork. I would also go to the bakery and bring it a box of cookies for everyone as an added touch.
Post # 6
I agree with Merlot – group thank you email (or card that can be passed around) with something like cookies would be perfect!
Post # 7
I would do one thank you for everyone, individual thank yous are not necessary with that many people (I read that in some etiquette thing…). Then, like someone mentioned cookies, bring in pastries or bagels and send an e-mail around saying "I brought in some snacks to thank you for my shower, they are in the break room" or whatever. Then you can leave the thank you card with the snack so everyone can read it.
Post # 8
I think a group thank you card would be great. I work in an office with about 40 people and the manager usually posts it up where everyone can see it. We’ve also received cake as a thank you (which we loved!).
Post # 9
hmmmm…my experience has been a little different. i work for a medium sized company in the southeast.
for weddings and baby showers the guest of honor has given out individual thank you cards for our group and/or individual gifts.
to say thank you for your thoughts/flowers/and prayers during a tragedy (death, fire, ect) the honored person sent out an email. perhaps where i live makes a difference?
i like the idea of pastries/bagels. with you being soo short on time, i doubt you can fit in personalized thank you cards…..perhaps bring in the treat and instead of sending an email, go by each person’s office and say thank you (and give hugs where appropriate) and let them know you brought in a special treat for everyone and its in the break room. that would personalize it a bit and may work since your office is "small".
Post # 10
I am not sure why you would give a gift as thank you for a gift. The only thing required of you (the recipient) is to write a thank you note, to every single person who chipped in to buy you that gift. The amount that each person gave is irrelevant. The single worst thing you could do is to send a mass thank you via email. According to my reading of etiquette, Ms. Manners has my side on everything I have said.