(Closed) Thanks a lot, girl at Alfred Angelo! (RANT)

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
796 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

*Hugs* 

I’ve not had quite the same experience that you’ve been through, but there are definitely some horror stories here. I’m really so sorry that you had to go through that. I’m sure that she had no idea what she was saying, nor any idea how her words could have been perceived. Also, I’m sure you’re not chubby at all if you are able to fit into a size 4 pants and size 4/6 bridal. All of that aside, you were still able to find someone to love you for exactly who you are, flaws (we all have them) and all. Maybe just try to focus on all the positive and all the progress you’ve made since then. That’s really amazing all that you’ve gone through to better your body. Congrats, and I really hope the dress search gets better!

Post # 5
Member
227 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’ve definetly had that same experience. i went to 3 different bridal salons and they kept saying i needed a double 0. when all their size 2s fit just fine. the one consultant kept telling me i was too skinny to be able to wear a normal wedding dress. i definetly high tailed it out of there. I ended up finding my dress in a size 4 and needed little alterations.

I saw screw all these consultants who dont ask questions first and then make assumptions about you. It definetly makes them look inconsiderate and just plain dumb and rude. But let me tell you not all consultants are like that. The last one i went to was so nice and friendly. i just loved her!

Keep your head up and remember no one else has the right to tell you how to look. as long as you love yourself then you are ten times better off then the girls who think image is everything.

Post # 6
Member
724 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I know how hard it is, and I know what it’s like to feel that way <3 You are a strong and beautiful woman that is so much tougher than those hurtful words that people throw at you. Unfortunately you will probably have these feelings your whole life but that doesn’t mean that you have to let them over power you! Your Fiance loves you, the people in your life love you, and all of those people mean more than some sales girl at alfred angelo who didn’t think before she spoke! Don’t be so hard on yourself, be proud that you have overcome so much and will continue to grow stronger every single day! 

Post # 7
Member
804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

That really sucks, I’m sorry.  That’s a horrible reaction for her to have; then again, maybe she’s jealous.  It’s possible that she’s struggled with weight issues and associates skinny with sickly and you looked “too healthy” to be a size 4?  I remember getting shocked looks if I said I was a size 4, and the “but your hair looks great/cheeks are rosy/calves have a shape.”  Apparently if you’re a size 4 you’re not allowed to have healthy hair or skin?  I would definitely have your Maid/Matron of Honor or mother call the manager and recommend that the sales associates get a lecture on being sensitive about customer’s weight in case it brings things like that up, because that’s just too insensitive.  What is she doing working in a bridal salon if she makes judgments like that?

Post # 10
Member
804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I hope he does.  Honestly, I’m sure that girl doesn’t want to actually hurt people, so it’ll be good for her to learn now how bad that can be.

I’m glad you found an amazing dress, that’s awesome!

Post # 11
Member
412 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I just looked at your other posts with you in the wedding dresses, and you look fabulous.  Congrats to you for working so hard to overcome your anorexia- I think your Fiance should call, there’s no reason for that consultant to make other women (who may or may not have struggled with weight) feel like crap.  I don’t know why she didn’t just ask your size to begin with instead of assuming something way off- who knows, she may have her own stuff going on and feeling smaller than others boosts her self confidence.  Again, you look beautiful and I’m glad you found a dress you loved!

Post # 12
Member
153 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

That is a shame. I wonder if she was trying to get you to fall in love with a dress that would be “only in that size” and would “need alterations.” It’s surprising what some people will do to get ahead or what they will do because of pure jealousy. I’m glad you found a dress you love at a store that actually treats you like a customer.

Post # 14
Member
598 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I experienced bad customer service at AA as well.  I would never tell anyone to go there.  The girl asked me what I wanted…I said nothing to fancy..not plain but not overdone on the bling and detail, no pickups and I ddint’ want a ball gown.  She asked my buget…I said 500 and then she showed me thier book and told me to pick out things I like…so I did….to which she said…well that dress has a lot of detail…that one is a ball gown…guess I can totally discount everything you told me then.  As if my opinion was now null and void.  Apparently she took this to heart becasue she then brought in a 1200 dress for me to try on…grrr….I didn’t buy from them either.  I’m sorry you had this experience.  I have weight issues too….the only advice I can give is to try to let it go..think about the lessons you learned in therapy…

Post # 16
Member
972 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I hope you don’t let her insensitive comment get to you. Size 4?! you’re skinny!! and I’m sure you looked beautiful

The topic ‘Thanks a lot, girl at Alfred Angelo! (RANT)’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors