Post # 1
*Hoping I can post this without getting a BB Press Error thing*
Something I’ve been noticing a lot lately is that people don’t seem to realize that I’ve been planning this wedding for a year. Up until now, no one has really taken an interest in my wedding or planning, at all. That’s fine. I am sort of a control freak about this whole thing, and don’t really need a lot of input or assisstance. Everyone knows I’ve been actively planning, though. Recently, I’ve been getting a lot of comments from people that would suggest that I don’t know what I am doing/don’t have anything planned and it’s driving me nuts! Nobody ASKS me what I’ve got done. Instead, they just say dumb things.
When I say “dumb things”, I mean, people are suggesting beaches and venues to me when I’ve had my venue booked since August. I posted a picture of the cutest wedding shoes on FB and someone said, “You can’t wear those on the beach. Save those for the reception, instead.” Gee, really? I would’ve never thought heels on the beach would be a bad idea if you hadn’t told me
I guess it’s just that as time is drawing near, people are taking more of an interest in the wedding and they don’t realize that I’ve been steady at this since last February. I know their intentions are good and they want to help… but RAWR!
As all of you are drawing near to your dates (or for those of you who have already married), have you been dealing with this?
Post # 3
I close my eyes and imagine punching them in the neck, LOL. I had a not invited aquantence tell Darling Husband and I that he and the GMs HAD TO wear tuxes and those tuxes HAD TO have vests – um what!? And Punch in the Neck……
Post # 4
“When’s your date?”
“But that’s winter! What if it snows?”
“We like snow.”
“Well I hope you have an indoor venue!”
No, I thought I’d have my wedding outside and subject my arthritic mother and DH’s ailing grandmother and all our guests to freezing temperatures for the ceremony, and then we’d all go skating on the frozen pond instead of dancing for the reception.
Post # 5
Yes! Even though we have only been engaged since November, we had already made a lot of decisions before hand. We’d chosen colors, style of attire, ideal venue (and back up if that didn’t work out), and food. We had a favorite photographer and dj and also discussed back up options for those if they didn’t work out when the time came. So, when the official engagement came, I got right to it contacting everyone and setting it all in motion.
Now that we’re a little more than 9 months out my biggest concerns are the details. Yet, everyone keeps assuming I haven’t even started yet!
Post # 6
@tksjewelry: LMMFAO! I am dying laughing right now… that is a great image to reduce some of the frustration! Next time someone says something stupid, I’ll just picture myself punching them in the neck and all will be well 🙂
@linguo42: We’re getting married in the summer on a Friday the 13th. You would not believe all of the crazy comments I get about the date. Also, people don’t understand that they cannot wear swimsuits and shorts to our wedding because the reception is at a nice restaurant.
@Dandelion D: As you get closer and closer to your date, people will start coming out of the woodwork with suggestions, as I’ve learned.
Post # 7
I am laughing with empathy at some of these images. Right up to the last minute some people will make suggestions.
“You should have ___, ____, ___ in your cake”( 2 days before the wedding!- the cake is baked thanks)
Have you thought of having a dress with_____ ( the day before!- if I did it’s a bit late for that!)
Post # 8
@Pinksapphire: *blank stare* Who on earth would wear a swimsuit and shorts to a wedding anyway?!?! Unless your cocktail hour was at a swim-up bar, lol.
Post # 9
@julies1949: Haha! I know! I really do understand where these people are coming from and I know they have no mal intent. But, a little common sense can really go a long way.
@linguo42: Well, my wedding is at the beach. We’re either having the ceremony on the beach or at a garden gazebo overlooking the beach. Either way, it is going to be a formal affair. I know some people get married at the beach and choose to go the causal route… but we’re having a formal, sit down dinner after the wedding. I have explained this multiple times, but people are still thinking flip flops (or barefeet) and swimsuits are suitable. I don’t care if people choose to remove their shoes/wear flip flops the the CEREMONY (if it’s on the beach). But, they need to have nice shoes on hand to change into for the reception, and their clothes need to be appropriate.
Post # 10
@tksjewelry: I love saying “I’d like to punch them in the throat”… so close. It made me laugh to see someone else thinks the same thing.
People will always have their opinion. I do a lot of eye rolling!!! sort of like this
Post # 11
I am having the same problem. No one gave two turds in the beginning but now all of a sudden everyone wants to put their two sense in. I get that people are trying to be helpful, but I feel like saying, “Information that could have been useful to me YESTERDAY!” 😛
I just smile and nod and do my own thing in the end.
Post # 12
FCIL likes to be negative about everything. The same person who married her is marrying Fiance and I. This particular minister requires four pre-marriage counseling sessions, which I already knew about from when FCIL got married. When she found out we were using the same minster as her, she was like, “Oh, well, you’re gonna have to set up counseling sessions and you’ve gotta go four times or he won’t marry you!” Umm, duh! Obviously I already knew this and the minster has re-gone over it with Fiance and myself. She was also like, “You’re going to have to give him some money.” Really? I didn’t realize I’d have to pay the minister for travelling 4.5 hours to my wedding.
Post # 13
@tksjewelry: You never cease to crack me up!!! I LOVE this!!
Post # 14
@linguo42: I just spit water all over my computer. Hilarious.