- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
I closed the topic “parents trying to call off the wedding” just because I’m headed for work soon and need all my concentration, rather than wondering if anyone has replied to my posts. I can’t go on Weddingbee at work.
I want to thank everyone for their insight. I think we have figured out a few things we can do here, thanks to ideas from all of you. But most important, we need to move out of our parents’ homes. This is ridiculous already. Perhaps we should have done this before planning the wedding, but there were a few reasons why we didn’t want to. Now we have changed our mind.
I think this is much less about money than it is about a power struggle between parents and children. We are now going to offer to pay for the entire thing ourselves, but I doubt that will solve anything unless we stick up for exactly what we want. Our wedding day is just a prelude to our entire marriage … and to make sure we gain that independence before then, things have to change NOW.
I hate being mad at my folks. I love them even with all the crap they’re putting me through. I like my in-laws. I don’t want a bad relationship with anyone. I just want everyone to get along – they don’t have to like each other – but for the sake of our marriage, they just need to be civil.
It’s tough being dependent on your parents for so long, but I didn’t really have a choice. I won’t ever be able to hold down a full-time job because I tire easily. I have a lot of medical appointments where I need help or a second ear. I AM dependent in some ways, so to shift my dependence to another person is very scary, and very difficult. Of course this sucks for all of us!
Thanks again everyone … why does a wedding seem to bring out the worst in people? Geez … I swear I’ve had a much easier time at funerals!