(Closed) Thanks for making me feel like sh*t..

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 47
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

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@StuporDuck:  Or how about “I can always lose more weight, what are you going to do about your face”

Post # 48
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Busy bee

@pokeman – don’t let it derail you! Keep doing what you are doing. I have battled weight issues all my life too…chronic yo-yo dieter. I can lose the weight but can never master that lifestyle part of it. :(. But I will never stop trying. I have had the pregnant question twice in my life myself, it is just the worst.

One was from someone I worked with and didn’t even know. I purposely made her feel awkward by leaving a really long stretch of silence, then saying “I’m not pregnant”. And then purposeful silence again which left her just stammering and stuttering. I then walked away, and ignored her the rest of my time at that job.

I guess I should be flattered she thinks im youthful enough to be in the baby-having stage of my life (I’m in my 40s, and done w having babies). OTOH she was an older lady trying to hang onto her youth with outdated long hair and spackled on make up. Wish I had told her she looked past her expiration date, I’d never have mistakes her for pregnant cuz she looked to old! B*tch. Lol now Im mad all over again.

I widpsh you could have screwed up that lady’s loan, lol!

Post # 49
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Grrr, I hate when people do that! It’s one thing when people who do it are just plain stupid, or if they realize their mistake and at least attempt to make a graceful or apologetic exit.  I can get past a mistake or ignorance, but when people do it maliciously it’s unbelievable. I had a former friend/co-worker *kindly* inform me that there was a rumor going around that I was pregnant. Turns out that it was a rumor that she had started, because we had all had to reapply for our jobs and I was rehired and she was not.  And she knows I can’t have any more kids.  Makes me want to punch her every time I think about it, and I’m a fairly peaceful person.  Thankfully I don’t have to work with her anymore, and there are reasons our friendship had ended long before then. I’m also happy knowing that karma owns her now 🙂  I’ll admit though, my self-esteem took a pretty good hit when it happened. I just have to remind myself of what a bitter, unhappy person she is to have stooped so low to be making up lies to boost herself up.

People who do and say those kinds of things on purpose must have really low self esteem and be pretty ugly on the inside/have serious personal issues if they have to do and say things to hurt other people to make themselves feel better. You are beautiful, don’t let one nasty, negative person convince you otherwise! *hugs*

Post # 50
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

What a horrible person!  Gosh, that’s so awful for anyone to say, ever!

Post # 51
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

@Pokemon:  wtf? What an insensitive girl.. 🙁 So sorry you had to hear that!

Post # 52
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Use negativity to motivate you. I know what she said hurt you, Lord knows I would’ve said some thing rude back to someone like that! Just keep pushing through and continuing feeling like a better you! Remember, the goal isn’t to be “skinny” it’s to be healthy and feel better! 

Post # 53
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Sugar bee

Wtf I would have flipped

Post # 54
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Buzzing Beekeeper

OMG, wow, just wow. What a b*tch. You don’t even look big enough for anyone to think that.

Post # 55
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

For what it’s worth, I think most women have this happen to them at least once. I think all my friends have and some of them are quite slim. I also think it’s usually more to do with what you’re wearing, how you’re standing/sitting, and what you ate or drank that day rather than what you actually look like.

Post # 56
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I know EXACTLY how you feel. Sorry it happened to you, too.  I had a similar situation a few years ago. I went to get my nails done and I always try to relax because, hey, I’m getting pampered. I was glad because I got the guy who doesn’t talk to you when he does your nails because he doesn’t know enough English so I was just chilling in my own world… When another lady who worked at the salon butted in:

lady: Did you have your baby yet?

Me: Uh, no I’m not pregnant.

lady: No? You look like girl who been in here pregnant before.

Me: No. I’m not pregnant.

lady: You married?

Me: No.

Lady: You have boyfriend?

Me: No.

Lady: It’s okay. You young. You have time.

Me: *brain explosion*

 

I gave away the shirt I wore that day to a pregnant girl I knew…. and since that time a few years ago I’ve lost 20 lbs and no one better ever dare ask me if I’m pregnant again.

Post # 57
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

It’s amazing how rude and nosy some random people are. We had a temp in for a month and my boss is always asking me when Fiance and I are going to have kids and she assumed that meant I am currently pregnant. I do not look pregnant, I’m not even all that chunky! 

Post # 58
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

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@Torrid:  lmao almost spit out my coffee reading your comment Laughing

Post # 59
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

so sorry you had to go through that ::hugs::  just goes to show getting older does not equal getting wiser for some folks…this has happened to me before, but to be fair i was at my heaviest at that time and i was wearing a shirt that did make it look like a baby bump…still hurt tho 🙁

 

Post # 60
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Blushing bee

How are some people so rude and dumb?

Post # 61
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

wtf. what a B! Don’t let it get to you – she’s a dummy!  I’d kick her in the taco!

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