(Closed) Thanks for pointing out that my biological clock is ticking!! Mini vent.

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
Member
973 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

If it’s someone close to me I’ll say something like, “We’re not ruling it out completely but it’s not really a priority for us”.  For just plain nosey people I tell them “It’s not ticking, it’s broke, or missing.”

Post # 4
Member
8042 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@kryssbride:  Seriously? I’d report her to HR. I’m not usually like that, but that would make my blood boil!

I’m 27 and no one has even hinted at me needing to have kids yet.

Realistically it’s 35+ when birth defects start.

Hell, my mom had my sister when she was 40.

 

Post # 5
Member
436 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Wow, first of all, I think that woman should be ashamed of herself for saying that to you, and especially trying to THREATEN you by mentioning Down Syndrome. One of my closest friends has a child with Down Syndrome (she was 25 when her little girl was born), and she is the light of their lives. So first off, ANYONE can have a child with DS, and additionally, I’d just not even worry about this lady–she sounds NUTS, and 27 is young! Just enjoy being married!

Post # 6
Member
7902 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

Um, 27 is not old at all to still be childfree. 

Post # 8
Member
10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Where do you live? I find that it’s very regional where people feel ike 27 is “old” to be a mom.

The stats don’t start dramatically changing for Downs Syndrome until 35, by the way. Average age of first child in my peer group is well into the 30s. I’m about to turn 29, don’t have a kid, and not a single person bats their eyes at that!

Post # 9
Member
620 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

She is tactless and has a reliable connection between mouth and foot. I’ve had coworkers like that and though it doesn’t always work, what I try to do is to limit conversations with them to the most generic, neutral topics… shopping, movies, hobbies, etc.

Post # 10
Member
1423 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Your coworker sounds very uninformed.  Ignore her.

Post # 11
Member
1868 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Tell that things have changed a lot since she was young 😉

Post # 12
Member
2854 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I forgot to put in the batteries.

Post # 13
Member
11234 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Bleh. I’ll be 28 shortly after we get married, but we won’t be TTCing for at least a year after that. We’d like to enjoy being married and be in a house, plus Fiance will be going into his program right after we get married, and I’d rather not have a  baby on just my income.

Post # 14
Member
580 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

If it makes you feel better, when I was 22 I taught at a different school than I do now. It was very inner city and a lot of the mothers were VERY young. I had a parent teacher meeting one time where a mom asked me why I didn’t have kids. When I replied that I had recently graduated from college and still had plenty of time for that (not that I owed her an explanation), she said to me “well, you better do it soon because you don’t want to be old!

I’m pregnant now and thrilled about it…because I’m actually ready!

(And FWIW, everyone is “ready” at different times…I have a friend who is younger than me that has FOUR!)

Post # 15
Member
241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

That is just rude! I get that “when are you having kids” all the time and I HATE it! Yes I know I am 29 and have been told by many I don’t want to be 30 and have kids, or we are getting too old…DH’s mom made a comment before we were married when he would give her a grandkid…um she has 20 already!! I slso have friends who cannot have kids and people asking those questions and not knowing the circumstances is just rude and irritates me. I also have friends older than me who do not have kids yet and do want to have them.

Post # 16
Member
2523 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Well, she’s a bitch.

The topic ‘Thanks for pointing out that my biological clock is ticking!! Mini vent.’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors