(Closed) Thanks for rubbing your interview in my unemployed face. (Vent)

posted 7 years ago in Career
Post # 3
1177 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Awwww I understand!! That’s so annoying 🙁


It’ll happen! I know, it’s never soon enough and it sucks in the mean time but keep your head up 🙂 Us Bees are here for you!

Post # 5
939 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

sometimes people are just so excited that they don’t stop and think how what they say might affect someone else.

example: today on two different occasions i was talking about wedding planning stuff to a girl who just called off her engagment a week or two ago.  I know.  I felt bad about it.  The first time I was halfway through what i was saying before i remembered.  And the second time I segued into it somehow and i kept silently telling myself to shut up, but i just keept babbling on. 

my point is, she probably didn’t try and make you feel bad, sometimes peoples mouths run faster than their brain!

p.s.  good luck on the job search! the perfect job is waiting for you.

Post # 7
13096 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m sure she was just excited about her own interview (who wouldn’t be?) and didn’t think that her comments would hurt.  As a PP said, sometimes our mouths move more quickly than our brains!

Although that said, it sounds to me like you need to get out there and apply for a lot more jobs!

You say you’ve been actively searching for 1.5 years yet you’ve only applied for 14 jobs?!?  I applied for over 100 jobs (with personalized cover letters and resumes for each) when I was graduating college and that was in a span of a couple months.  You have to be your own advocate and get your name and resume out there in people’s hand if you want to same opportunities to come to you as your friend is getting!

Post # 8
1730 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I’ll say this, not sure if it’ll make you feel any better about the friend getting a call back when you didn’t:  A lot of places are looking for people who are LESS qualified right now, so they can justify paying them a lower salary.  Companies are facing tight budgets and the prospect pf paying you what you’re worht vs. what your friend or someone else with less epxerience and/or less education or training is a lot more attractive right now.  In fact, many people who ahve been laid off and are job hunting are omitting things from their resumes to make themselves look more hireable – comapnies fear hiring people who are ‘too’ good for the job – they fear you won’t stay after they’ve invested time and money into training you, making you a bad investement.  So, they call back people with less…. impresive work histories or resumes hoping they’ll luck out and get soemone who can do the job acceptably for cheaper.

Job hunting sucks at the best of times.  I’m sorry you’re not having a lot of luck right now.  Maybe you should see about revising your resume a bit, and taylor it for each job you’re applying for (a lot of people simply make up one version, regardless of the differences in the jobs they apply for).  For instance, if one job is more of a customer service position, play up anything you’ve got about that, but downplay a bit, any management experience you have, as that could make you look ‘too’ experienced or too expensive to hire.  If you re applying for a creative job, emphasis your creative abilities and skill, but leave out and book-keeping you might be abel to do, and bring a small throw-away portfolio to leave. 

I hope that makes sense.  Good luck with the hunt.

Post # 9
236 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Try contacting a recruiting firm that specializes in your industry. I was laid off a year ago and went through a recruiting firm to land a contract gig, and while I was doing that, I continued to look for a permanent job. It kept my resume current, and I think that helped me once a permanent job came through. Recruiters want the commission, so they’re great advocates for you. Good luck!

Post # 11
743 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Uhhh… I am not sure I agree with Isilme comments…..

BUT – how close are you with this girl?  Can you say to her “Gee, I am so happy you have an interview – I have had no luck!  Could I see a copy of your resume?  Maybe that will help me edit mine so that I can make my resume look more attractive and then maybe I can harness some of your luck!”



Post # 12
4770 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Have you had anyone read your resume and cover letter?  It seems like there is something wrong there.

Post # 13
2018 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@SouthernGirl: Hmm, what about temping? If you can use a computer and answer a phone, you can get work right away.  No interviews required:)

Post # 14
3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

What kind of jobs are you applying for? Since your a college student I would assume your schedule is limited. Is that effecting employer decisions?

Post # 15
4546 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m sorry 🙁 As someone who is unemployed (well I’m working part time but NOT going to school) I understand how frustrating it can be!

Post # 16
3587 posts
Sugar bee

@SouthernGirl: I know how irritating it is when someone with less experience and doesn’t really care about a job, gets one. My sis has been looking (with a BS) and my cousin’s wife got a job aying well and she has no high school diploma. Like, WTF? I remind her what Islme said about they pay them even less.

Also, remember what you wrote: If she gets this job, it will be the third one she’s had since I’ve been looking.

Sounds like a job hopper and I’m surprised she keeps getting hired. Those who have never been unemployed or laid off, don’t understand how it feels to see soemthing like this happen. I hope a job comes soon for you.

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