(Closed) Thanks for the surprise flowers, but… I don’t like them

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: What should I do?
    Suck it up and say nothing other than Thank you : (122 votes)
    72 %
    Say something in a few weeks : (28 votes)
    16 %
    Keep leaving flower catalogs on his desk (with your choices circled) and hope he gets the hint : (12 votes)
    7 %
    Other (answer below) : (8 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    1556 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Do you know what florist he uses?  I’d call them and explain your situation.  I would think they can note your likes and dislikes in their records and “guide” him in his choices.

    Post # 5
    2999 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @Neva: That’s a good idea. I usually stop at the floral section in the grocery store and look at flowers and then tell SO how much I love a certain flower. Works for him =)

    Post # 6
    2442 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Would he be offended if you gave him a list of flowers that you do like?  

    Post # 7
    1542 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I agree with Neva in the calling the flourist. You already told him so there’s not a lot you can do other than continously pointing out the flowers you like.

    Being honest if it was me I’d suck it up, but that’s me. Maybe you can tell him how inconvenient you think lilies are becaus eof the pollen.

    Post # 8
    981 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2008 - A tiny town just outside of Glacier National Park

    Lillies kill me because of the sweet odor, and I know if Mr CP got me lillies I’d say something, but gently, about my preferences. Of course, I’d also thank him, too! It’s the thought that counts.

    Post # 9
    3261 posts
    Sugar bee

    I wouldn’t say anything. It’s nice that he’s thoughtful enough to get you flowers. 


    Post # 10
    5670 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Besides giving him hint like you are doing or buying flowers you like for the house, I would just suck it up. It’s just his very sweer way of saying he is thinking of you.

    Post # 11
    335 posts
    Helper bee

    Do you ever buy flowers? Maybe if once and a while you brought home a bouqet, he’d learn your tastes…. like, “I picked up these gerber daisies at Whole Foods, don’t you love how they brighten up the room?”

    Post # 12
    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Honestly, I’d suck it up and wouldn’t say anything.  All flowers look pretty and make you feel special, whether they are your favorite bloom or not.

    Maybe pick up some Gerbera daisies at the grocery every once in a while though and put them out.  Maybe if he see them in the house and you enjoying them, he’ll think of them the next time he orders flowers.

    Post # 13
    3364 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Tell them they are messing with your allergies, and you cant have them in the office/home! LOL And if the circling still doesnt work, I’d start folding, tabbing and highlighting things! lol Some men need GUIDANCE! Sweet of him to send you flowers though!

    Post # 14
    46404 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I would just appreciate his thoughtfulness. When people get crticized for their choice in gifts, they may just stop giving them.

    As for the pollen problem with lilies, it is common practice to pinch out the stamens. It also removes most of the sweet smell if that bothers you.

    Post # 15
    9029 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I wouldnt complain too much. My husband bought me flowers recently and it was seriously the weirdest bouquet ever,  And he knows what type of flowers I like because we talked about it so much during the wedding planning and my wedding bouquet is currenly in a glass case in the living room as a big clue.. he still bought me ugy flowers but I was happy regardless because it was a nice and thoughtful gesture

    Post # 16
    1562 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I voted “suck it up.”  It’s a nice gesture and that is what matters.

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