Post # 1
So, I have 1 Maid/Matron of Honor, 2 BMs, and a SIL who helped with the shower. I went to Victoria’s Secret today and they have 50% off Beauty Rush products, so each gloss, shadow, lipstick, etc that is normally $7 was $3.50. I picked out products that matched each girl’s complexion (with a few extra for my hardworking MOH), wrote a personal thank you note to each lady, and put them in mini VS bags.
So, here are my questions:
- When should I give the girls their little gifts? Before the shower, during the shower, after the shower? In front of everyone or just me and them? I have 1 friend attending who was upset that she wasn’t asked to be a bridesmaid. Also, at least a few other ladies attending offered to help out and my Maid/Matron of Honor politely said they didn’t need help. I’m worried mostly of jealousy, but I want to celebrate my lovely maids.
- Do I do anything special for my mom? She’d feel weird getting lipgloss, but should I write her a thank you note as well? My sister is one of the BM’s and she asked my parents for help with her share of paying for the shower. Found out after it was too late that my dad took that as an opportunity to show off and had my mom cut my Maid/Matron of Honor a check to REALLY help pay for the shower. I know the ettiquette for that is off… but it’s too late for that. My parents are married so my mom and dad basically chipped in a lot. How do I thank my mother without drawing attention to the fact that my mom paid for a chunk of the food? Right now I’m just thinking a handwritten card…
Post # 3
I gave mine to the folks throwing my shower towards the end, after I’d opened my gifts and during cake. There was no awkwardness with friends/bridesmaids for me, etc — but I would still say that it would be good to acknowledge those who showered you while everyone’s still there. Not to mention that if your non-bridesmaid friend is going to throw a fit…better to know now, right?
About the other — you know your mom the best. I would say a handwritten card for sure, and maybe flowers or chocolates or something like that. BUT, I would do that later, with just your family, since you’re trying not to draw attention to their financial help.
Post # 4
I would take my girls out for coffee (if they’re local) afterwards and give them their gifts. Otherwise, I’d give them their gifts at the end of the shower just as PP mentions.
For my mom, I would do the same, but give her a gift card for one of her favorite restaurants or … better yet … take her out to that restaurant!
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I gave mine out after the shower, when we were packing everything up. The only other guest was one who carpooled with the bridesmaids, so it wasn’t an issue.
Post # 6
I gave mine after, i did Wait for a few people in particular to leave to avoid any awkwardness
Post # 7
Give them the gifts privately (you can call them all aside after the shower after everyone leaves or before everyone gets ther and hand them their gift with a heart felt thank you note.
As for your mom, I would get her and your dad an extra thank you… and a nice card/letter to truly express how thankful you are and how you feel.