(Closed) Thanks for your opinion, Mom, but I don’t really care

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
142 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

try sarcasm, Ok mum it was either that or I want to get married abroad I want 500 guests and a three course luxury meal in a 7* hotel so your gonna have to pay all the flights and hotel and food that ok? or do you think we should stick to the original plan?

Post # 4
1014 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Maybe you can find a happy medium. Outdoor location, but more rustic chic than backyard BBQ? Show her some blog ideas so she can see it can be laidback, while still elegant and  beautiful. We had lawn games, outdoor venue, and a relaxed vibe, but it was still very nice and none of our guests complained!

Post # 5
2104 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m in an extremely similar situation.  My mom actually told me she would rather bring a brown bag lunch for herself if I did that type of reception, even after I explained to her several times that I can’t afford even a “normal” catered affair for everyone (I’m funding the entire wedding – she’s not putting a dime into it).  I’ve been so stressed that I’m hardly sleeping at night and started losing handfuls of hair… I had to go to the doctor to make sure this was stress and not something else going on.  When she found out about that, my mom backed off quite a bit.  In fact, she now denies ever saying the brown bag lunch comment!!  She’s so damn infuriating!!  

P.S. She also negates any type of entertainment we like… photobooth, caricatures, magician, etc, so just know that you aren’t alone in this “mom hell.”

Post # 6
34 posts
  • Wedding: April 2012

My mom does the same thing!! it is so irritating..We are doing a very informal bbq reception too, and she actually said to me “we have some very classy people coming & we just cannot serve them bbq.” I quickly told her that this was my wedding and we will be serving whatever my fiance & I decide to serve. My mother hasn’t put a lot of money into the wedding, which is fine since we have not asked her to, but for her to tell me what we will or will not serve, isn’t acceptable.

I say, have whatever food you want! it is YOUR wedding & you should be able to have the kind of wedding that you want!

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