Post # 1
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Busy Beekeeper
I’m curious if there are any in the hive that voluntarily spend Thanksgiving with just their spouse (and not either side of their extended family).
I’m not counting cases where there is no extended family or if extended family requires travel that is unable to take place.
I’m talking about situations where you’d prefer to just be with your spouse vs. deal with the drama of extended family.
Thoughts?
I’ll also add to say that part of me LOVES this and part of me feels doing something like this is incredibly selfish.
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
Pretty sure this year we’re semi spending time with just each other, but it’ll be for Thanksgiving dinner only. Thanksgiving lunch we’ll meet up with my parents and brother to visit my grandma in the nursing home and have lunch with her there. I have no idea what the rest of my ginormous extended family is doing. I don’t even know what his parents are doing.
Post # 4
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Helper bee
His parents offered to fly us out for a family thing thsi year. However we’ve had a really really rough year and always have to travel to see family, so we decided just us for this year! We’re both really looking forward to it!
Post # 5
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Blushing bee
FIRST YEAR!!!!!!!!! 
I have travelled to see family all 35 years of my life. This is the FIRST where I get to stay home. The Fiance and I are gonna make a lovely organic dinner and might do dessert at his brothers that weekend. But, we will be having a quiet, intimate dinner alone on the day.
very exciting.
Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
I would love for it to be DH and I and our son. I really rather not have to deal with his side of the family for Turkey day. Sadly though don’t think it is going to happen, since sounds like his brother and family from St Louis MO are coming up for that weekend.
Post # 7
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Sugar bee
I much prefer to do holidays on our own, but we usually go to DH’s parents’ house for Thanksgiving (much to my dismay). I’m so glad we have to stay home this year for both holidays (3rd trimester!). I can only tolerate my Mother-In-Law for about a day and then I’m done.
Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
No….but that would be AMAZING!
Post # 9
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Sugar bee
Our families are about 400miles away and SO HAS to work black friday so we’d have to go and come back on thanksgiving if we were to go for the holiday. However thanksgiving is also my birthday and I refuse to spend my birthday travelling, it’s bad enough that it’s on thanksgiving. Our current idea is to go for the weekend of thanksgiving and just celebrate it late.
Post # 10
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Honey bee
This year my husband and I invited my mother and her fiancé as well as my mother in law and my husband’s youngest sister, but last year I flew up to see my then-fiancé and we spent the holiday together alone. We ate sushi, stuffing and pumpkin pie, just the two of us in his apt as all his roommates were gone. I watched Man v. Food while he cooked and he ruined the pumpkin pie lol. Then we got drunk and threw marshmallows into each other’s mouth. It was the best Thanksgiving ever. On Black Friday we drove to his family and spent the rest of the weekend with them. It was such a great weekend.
Post # 11
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Sugar bee
I holdmisfit Tdays because we do live across country. Some years its with people, some years we are by ourselves. I prefer to be with my family mine or my inlaws), but I cant if we go home for Xmas.
Having done the alone Thanksgiving, it just doesnt feel like a holiday. I cook every night of the week for DH and I so there is nothing different about thanksgiving to me. To me its about the people, not the food.
Post # 12
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Honey bee
@Nona99: For real. This is our first year back in our hometown in time for the holidays. I want to run away back to where we used to live. Just people ASKING our plans about the holidays is enough to make me want to snap on someone. DO YOU REALLY CARE IF I FUCKING EAT TURKEY WITH YOU??? STOP ASKING WHAT I’M DOING. I live here now, there’s 364 days out of the year you can freaking see me.
Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
I love spending holidays with just my husband, but this year our son joined us! It’s much more relaxing then being with a group, at least for me. Before we were married we went to his family’s house for every single holiday and it wasn’t a fun time, so we’re doing it our way for now on.
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
We will be on our honeymoon — which is good because it’s DH’s parents’ turn and we’re a bit sour with them after the whole wedding process!!!
Post # 15
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Sugar bee
Our situation is that travel is too far to spend it with my family… and my husband’s family does thanksgiving the weekend after (I think this is so that their now grown kids can spend it with their married families), so DH and I have always had thanksgiving by ourselves, kind of by choice, then a second thanksgiving over the weekend with his family.
We always make a big thanksgiving meal and give plates off to our friends and people without family at the bar (DH owns a bar).
I can’t wait until we start doing this with Christmas as well… Both of our families live far away so traveling for Christmas is a pain! We usually drive the 5-6 hours to DH’s family and spend it at his parents house) and DH works Christmas night so we have to drive all the way back on Christmas day… It’s just not fun. So when we have kids we will be spending Christmas Eve and Christmas at our house and probably spending the weekend before or after with his family at the farm house.
Post # 16
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Sugar bee
We have done this already and we may be doing that this year just because my fiancé relocated and has to work over the holiday. I would prefer it be just us.